这一生你最终会依靠谁 Who Will You Ultimately Depend on in This Life

Everyone will grow old. When one is old and feeble entering the declining years of life, who will one ultimately depend on? The setting sun is infinitely good, just near dusk. A person's old age inevitably shows a trace of sadness. Someone’s parents are white-haired and their life needs to be taken care of, or someone’s parents are already dead. The brothers and sisters go to different places and have their own families, enjoying their happy old age. They seldom meet each other on weekdays. Occasionally, they say hello to each other by phone. Children have their own jobs. Even when they are around, in a city or a village, they are still middle-aged and have no time to accompany their parents all day long.

When you are old, who can you rely on and where is your hope? After careful consideration, you can only rely on two people, one is yourself, the other is your wife or husband.

Everyone will leave you in the end. When you are left alone, you will find that you can only rely on yourself. Having good health and being able to take care of yourself are the greatest happiness, both for yourself and for your family. If you need someone to take care of you all day, it is like tying a person to your own body. In cases of chronic sickness, there are no dutiful children at the bedside. It is hard to say that you will not be rejected after a long illness in bed.

There is an old man in Shanghai who participated in the War of Resistance against the United States and Aid Korea as a member of the air force in his youth. His pension is very high. He has a son and a daughter. After his wife's death, the old man gradually needed to be taken care of, so he wanted to live with his son. But his daughter-in-law disagreed, thinking their house was small and inconvenient. His daughter wanted the old man to live with them, but the old man felt ashamed to live with his daughter and his son-in-law, and finally went to the nursing home.

Most rural elderly people have the same experience. Several sons take turns to take care of them, or send food to the old man's residence, or the old couple goes to one of their sons’ home for a period of time, and then goes to another son's home. The old men's home has only become a quilt and a few pieces of bedding, which makes people feel sad.

If you are healthy, you can have a pension and a comfortable nest. How can the evening scene be so bleak? Exercise well and work hard to earn money when you are young, so that you can rely on yourself when you are old.

In addition to yourself, you can rely on your spouse. With mutual help and relief in time of poverty, though quarrelling with each other when young, you could find that your spouse is the one who will depend on when you are old. There is a person who can talk to you, even if he or she doesn't say a word, as long as your spouse is around, that is the greatest comfort. Moreover, we should take care of each other. In case of any problem, your spouse can call for help. It is no wonder that a couple of old men can live in a yard or a house, but if there is only one person left, their children will not rest assured.

There are many things that children don't understand, but only their spouses do. Many things are inconvenient for children, but they are OK for their spouses. Your spouse often follows you, but it is difficult for your children to do so. If you have a spouse in old age, you will not feel lonely, and you have someone to depend on in your life.

Someone once concluded that in addition to taking good care of yourself, one should also take good care of his or her spouse. How better he sum it up!.

人都会变老，行至人生暮年，年迈衰老，一个人最终会依靠谁呢？夕阳无限好，只是近黄昏。一个人的晚年不免透着一丝凄凉，父母白发苍苍，生活已需要人照顾，或者有的父母早已不在人世了。兄弟姊妹各奔东西，各自成家，都已是含饴弄孙的年纪了，平日里也是很少见面，偶尔通过电话问几声安好。子女都有自己的工作，即使在身边，在一座城市，一个村子里，也是人到中年，为自己一家人的生活奔波，也没有时间整日里陪伴在父母左右。

当你老了，放眼望去，你最终能指望谁、依靠谁呢？细细思量一下，你能依靠的只有两个人，一个是你自己，另一个是你的老伴。

谁都会离你而去，当最后剩下你一个人时，你会发现能够依靠的只有自己了。身体棒棒，能够自理，这是最大的幸福了，无论是对自己还是对自己的家人来说。若整日里需要人照顾，那就等于把一个人拴在了自己的身上，久病床前无孝子，很难说不遭人嫌弃的。

有位上海老人，年轻时参加过抗美援朝而且还是空军，退休金很高。他有一个儿子和一个女儿，老伴去世后，生活渐渐需要人照顾，他便想跟着儿子一起生活。可儿媳不同意，嫌自家房子小，生活不方便。女儿愿意老人跟着他们生活，可老人觉得自己有儿子，跟着女儿女婿生活自己心里过意不去，最后便去了养老院。

农村老人大都有着同样的经历，几个儿子轮轮照顾，或者送饭到老人的住处，或者老人到儿子的家里住上一段时间，到时再到另一个儿子家里去住。老人的家就只变成一床被子和几件铺盖了，不免令人心里难过一番。

若是自己身体健康，还能有一笔养老金，有一个舒适的窝，晚景怎会如此凄凉？锻炼好身体，年轻时努力挣钱，这样老了才会有依靠。

除了自己，你还能依靠上的就是自己的老伴。相濡以沫，走过一生，年轻时吵吵闹闹，年老才发现老伴才是相互依靠的那个人。有个能够同你说说话的人，哪怕是一句话不说，只要老伴在身边，那就是最大的安慰。再者，彼此有个照应，万一有谁出了问题，老伴可以打个电话呼救吧。也难怪，两个老人可以生活在一个院子里，一个房子里，可若是只剩一人，子女们就放心不下。

许多事，子女们不懂，唯有老伴懂得；许多事，子女们面前就不方便，可老伴就没事。老伴常随左右，可子女就难以做到。有老伴，就不会感到寂寞，生活就有依靠。

有人曾总结说，人这一生除了照顾好自己外，另外就是要照顾好自己的老伴了。这句话总结得很是到位。

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