when I say create, I mean your beliefs etc create, so if for example you think your life sucks, you begin to tell yourself the story your life sucks, you then go around and say to others your life sucks you are affirming your life sucks, so it has no option but to go on sucking and give you more and more evidence it sucks. There are the two options really and I have always flipped between the two and they both seem to work in different ways. One way is to lie to oneself over and over till it becomes a reality. I did this with guys, I used to always say bad stories about my connections and that strong soul connections didn't want to commit blah blah blah, they are always runners and afraid of connections, or make excuses, then say they were narcissists lol etc . After a year or so of constant repetition that men loved committing to me, they always worked through anything that came up to be with me, had always wanted to commit to me etc and only saying the things I wanted and not engaging in any stories that I did not want I got into a relationship with a strong connection super easily. I found everywhere I went I would meet great guys who wanted to commit almost immediately, by this point I didn't even want them as had someone already. But I switched my beliefs by repetition of what I wanted as if it was already the case rather than constantly moan to friends about what I didn't;/ Once I stopped doing it I saw just how much people moan about guys, when they asked me and I would now say oh everything is going super well it's all good, they just didn't speak any more because they only really knew how to bitch about guys, and of course in their reality they had a lot to bitch about. This is just an example but it applies to everything I also did it or am doing it with money. Having said that it can make you feel a bit like you are 'trying' hard it's not really the path of none duality which is to surrender and accept everything and just give it no reaction or energy. That does seem to bring a greater feeling of joy and love but then at times I think it is important to really work on re wiring built in beliefs. I often listen to binearals and subliminals as they go straight into the subconicous. Of course this is just my journey, I am not saying everyone has to believe in it but it worked for me on pretty much every area of my life.