Betrayal and backbiting are in the list of things we experience time and time again and yet we never fully learn from them.
Even when you think you've learned so many lessons from previous experience, you still find yourself being betrayed by people you least expected to do so. It can be a total stranger who you are just meeting for the very first time or someone you've known for a very long time.
The crazy thing about betrayal and backbiting is that it also happens between family members. Can you believe that?
When you hear stories of things that happen in many families, you will realise that even family members betray each other in a way you will never imagine. I mean, when children do things to hurt their parents and siblings are ready to push each other off a cliff, what else can be worse than that?
You know what happens when people get betrayed?
They blame themselves for trusting people. If you didn't trust anyone in the first place, there will be a very low chance of exposing yourself to people that will betray that trust.
But;
No one at all?
Not even your friends or family?
These are important questions. Feel free to answer in the comment section. I'm looking forward to what y'all think.
What will you do if you are always being betrayed by people you trust?
Turn against the world.
Cut ties with friends and families.
Don't connect with anyone.
Live in your world alone and trust no one.
Till death comes knocking.
If that sounds like what you plan to do or what you want to be advised to do, you won't be getting any of that from me. Behave and brace yourself because what you faced is not the end of betrayals.
People can just be betrayers and backbiters. That happens. When you come across such people in life, even when you are giving them more than they deserve, they will always be looking for ways to betray you.
These are what I would advise you to do;
1. Firstly, don't blame yourself for being betrayed.
You gave a homeless person a home, he robbed you overnight. Can you imagine how captivating that news will be? People will be sneery and make caricature of you for trusting people but never blame yourself for that.
Maybe you could have been more protective of yourself in such a situation. Maybe you could have helped differently without exposing yourself to the danger of being betrayed, but learn from it and don't beat yourself down with self-blame.
2. Secondly, try to take your mind away from the betrayal.
It has happened and you have to live with it - no two ways about that. If you have a job, you will still have to do the job well. If you are a Mum, you will still have to play the role of a Mum well. The same applies to everyone. Life goes on regardless of the number of people that betrays you.
If you don't try as fast as possible to put your mind in order, you will become grouchy and easily irritated for no particular reason. The more you think about all the betrayals, the more your mind will be disturbed and before you know it, you will become a ticking time bomb. You will end up lashing out at people.
If you don't want to set off that bomb, the best thing to do is to channel your mind to things that give you positive energy. Do what you love and try to fill yourself with positivity. I tell ya, it works.
3. Lastly, speak to someone about what you are feeling.
Depending on your personality, this may be easy or very hard to do. It's like baring yourself in front of someone. It's never easy for me, but it has always proved to effective.
There must be someone ready to listen to you. That person will listen without judging and the person will give you the sticks when you truly deserve it without any attempt to hurt you in any way.
If you have someone like that, open up (I can't overemphasize that) and pour out your heart. By the end of the discussion, you will see yourself in a new light. Hopefully, a light that will brighten up your mind and spirit forever.
That, my friends, is how to deal with being betrayed. Feel free to add more to it. Let's heal each other.
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