The last born "curse" or "blessing"

#The last born of the family popularly referred to as the "baby of the house" is the last child of the family. But do we consider this life position a curse or a blessing?

It is a well known fact that in most homes, the last born usually comes first in family decisions which gives people a perception that they are usually spoilt as they are offered and given all they desire in life. What people don't see is the downside to this title. The last borns are also the last to experience the stages of life either because of over protection by their parents or siblings.

They are usually the last to get their first kiss among their peers, last to get into their first relationship, last to have a bank account, last to travel on their own, last to get working experience and sometimes even last to get into the university.

#Personally, i think parents or siblings of last borns, play their over protection role because they are scared to see that little baby that was sleeping while others were dancing and brimming with joy on the celebration of his/her birth turn into this wild and free person who is just interested in dancing down the road of life and is too busy having so much fun to notice that there are rocks everywhere that are so little but are capable of the deadliest downfall. It is okay to be concerned about the life and welfare of your child/sibling but when its all you do it becomes a problem for you and a bigger problem for your child. As a matter of fact, you might just end up destroying the life of this child, all by yourself.

Funny enough, some of these last borns actually enjoy this attention just as their parents/siblings enjoy giving it to them but we have to admit that too much of this attention actually leads one into permanent detention of problems that might be too late to solve.

Other last borns however, are often faced with protesting all their lives not to be treated like one. The worst part is that this protest often extends outside the family. They are treated the same way by friends, extended family and sometimes even colleagues at school and work. Instead of climbing their way through the ladder of life, they always have that extra first step to struggle with because it is usually the hardest to climb.

I am a victim of this blessing/curse, as i happen to be the last born of my family but i still can't decide if it has been a curse or a blessing. I assume this is because i have managed to struggle against the downsides of this title and i am still in the forefront of this battle. But what of those who don't even know how to struggle against this downsides? How do they begin their own battle?

I know there are lots of last borns out there, some are living through this blessing, and some are living through this curse, others..... just know they posses this title and don't even know what this is about. (shrugs)