Introduction
Hello guys, welcome to my blog. I'm sure most of you would have been in that awkward situation where you mistook someone's niceness for actually having feelings for you and you thought, 'oh well I should ho for it' and baam... You go got rejected, ouch, the disappointment is heartbreaking, lol. Well, I'm here to help you sail that boat safely and know when she's just being nice as opposed to to actually catching feelings for you.
It can be really confusing to know when a woman actually likes you or is just being polite, so if you're the kind of person who can't seem to figure it out or you get mixed signals, here are a few tips, or should I call them red flags, that you should take note of when dealing with that *special one*. I think this would help you reduce the chances of you getting rejected.
Here we go
Never Gives you Specifics
Say you want to go out on a date with her and you decided to call and ask her if she'll be available on so and so day, and she's like 'uhm... I'm not so sure when I'll be free, but lets just say Saturday', ' I'll keep you posted' or ' I'll let you know' and then she never gets back to you. That is a sign that she's just being nice and not interested in going any further down that lane with you.
Turn up issues
So, she may eventually give you a date when she'll be free. The D-Day comes and you're all set and in the venue. You get there and she's not there yet, you take it as normal and wait a little longer but she still hasn't showed up. Things are getting really awkward now cos people in the place are beginning to notice you've just been sitting there all by yourself for a while now. You decide to call and know what the matter is then she just gives you an excuse for not showing up. This is something she could have easily called before hand to tell you.
She doesn't want to be too close to or alone with you.
She mostly avoids being too close to you or alone with you, maybe because she's not comfortable with you or don't trust you're gentleman enough ( you probably must have given off that vibe with your mindless talks about sex and stuff like that). She mostly withdraws herself from you when you intrude in her personal space, this may not be immediate but along the line she pulls back
This can also be seen when she doesn't bring you close to her friends/inner circle. When a lady likes you, she'll mostly want to show you off to her friends and you'll mostly get the nod of approval from her friends, but in a situation where she avoids you being close to her friends, chances are that she's not as interested as you think, back off.
She really takes her time to respond to you messages
Supposing you now take the social media route and try chatting, you'll notice that she really takes her time to respond to your message, she'll leave your messages unread ( this can be observed on media like WhatsApp). You may see her with her phone all the time and chatting but for some reasons, she just not replying you.
Conclusion
Well, lets not get this all twisted, hey,some ladies might just show some of these signs but are head over heels for you. You nee to assess the situation, like in the case of chatting, somw people are not just the chatting type, while some others might just be shy and stuff like that.
These few tips should give you a hint as to whats on her mind regarding you. She may not tell you outright that she's not interested, but actions speaks louder than words.
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