Hello, the topic brings discussions, there is not a perfect answer for everyone, so I believe that each reality and each experience of my own life has to be measured in its context. What I have lived and what another person has lived is not always comparable, and our judgment may well not coincide, not because one of the two is wrong, but because we are considering reality from very different perspectives. With that cleared up, I'll give my opinion :)

Sex is a biological function, not necessarily linked to the affective relationship, nor necessarily related to reproduction. In fact, the sexual violence of rape is an extreme example of that, it is about sex out of hatred or the desire to harm the other person, that is a separate and rough topic, but it is an example of how extreme it can be that of sex without positive feelings.

Ok, so you can have sex for pure pleasure, just like I can eat a tender fruit for the sheer taste of its flavor and texture, even if I'm not hungry at the time. It is a pleasure for the senses, something simply sensual.

Turning to marriage and sex, well, I consider that rituals are important things for social life and for the cohesion of human groups, the ritual of presenting newborns, the ritual of getting married, the ritual of saying goodbye to the dead and all the other rituals, they are all things that we do to mark a change in the social situation of the participants, it is done to comply with the community or group and to give meaning to a phenomenon of life.

So, I am not against sex without prior marriage, I clarify, I am not in favor of unleashed and unhinged promiscuity, I have some pity and distance from those who suffer from mental imbalances that drive them without restraint to seek sexual gratification regardless of the consequences, regardless of the price to pay or without caring about the damage they can do to other people with their actions.

All that said, I guess if there's a romantic relationship (and even if it's just friendship with physical attraction) and it's people who have decision-making power and are having a sexual experience by mutual consent, then I don't really care if it's before or after marriage. As long as they take the required preventive measures, it is by free will, and they have a non-pernicious attraction, then I suppose that it is something that can be fine and that I am not going to criticize.

Well, this answer was long (laughs) I guess I took the question too seriously.