I believe partially in what you say, but stand by my observation it allows the intent of others to be forced on one to be ignored at ones own peril.

I wrote a post years ago that mentioned abuse I underwent from the time I was a young child of 3 on up. I will share a link here if you are interested as I have no desire nor the heart to retype it. But I will submit to you that in no way was the innocent trusting loving child I was at that time in any way choosing the horrors that awaited me. My world was one of love and safety until then. What befell me was the intent of others foisted upon my defenseless self.

https://hive.blog/family/@practicalthought/not-all-mom-s-are-equal