Maria, I am so troubled. My husband no longer pays attention to me. He is even suggesting a divorce. I'm never going to let another woman take my man without a fight, a distressed Angi cried.
Angi, as I fondly call her is my sister-in-law. She was experiencing problems in her marriage and she came to me for advice.
'Angi, I won't tell you what to do but I will tell you a story.
Your brother isn't the first man I married, infact I met him when I was torn apart by my first husband. He decided to keep it between the both of us but I'm willing to share with you'.
I observed the expression of shock on her face and I actually expected that.
'I was married 7 years to Starry. I loved him so much and he did too not until 2 years into our marriage, he gradually changed, he was different, he became too busy, he got too temperamental. I didn't understand what was happening and trust me I tried to ask, I set up family meetings but nothing. To make the case worst I couldn't bear children',
'But you have 3 lovely children for my brother, Angi chipped in
'Let's say I thought I couldn't bear children', I continued.
I kept telling myself that I would have children at the right time. I beared all the excesses of my husband until 7 years, he served me divorce letters. I was broken, I cried for days, I begged to at least have a conversation, I begged him to call off the divorce process but it met a brick wall. He stopped eating food I cooked. Every morning he would motor out and return as late as. I lost my right as a wife but I was ready to endure because I thought my marriage needed to be saved.'
'I recall that afternoon vividly, I overheard my gate keeper having an argument with someone so I stepped out to see who it was. I met a lady with two children and there was my husband's car, apparently she rode in that.
'Who are you, I asked
'I am your co-wife and I've come to stay in our husband's house, she replied while rolling her eyes and making faces at me. She brushed me aside and ordered my gatekeeper to take in her bag to my husband's room. I was still ready to endure for the sake of my marriage. Starry returned for the first time in years before 7pm and asked that I use the guest room as his new wife would be sharing the room with him. I moved my stuffs without a fight to the guest room. I wept through out that night, I'm sure I didn't sleep well because I woke up with a swollen face.
