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Just like yesterday when we started the month of July and it is just some few days to the end of the month and yet the start of another brand new month. This year have been filled with lots of challenges especially in my country where we are experiencing series of insecurity and educational challenges. In other words, terrorists are tormenting the lives of the citizens on a daily basis and in the educational aspects, University students have been on strike since February with no hope of resuming any time soon. Hopefully all these challenges will be resolved soon and we'd have a better country to call ours.
In today's post we will be talking about love, and distance in a relationship. These are common topics that we are quite familiar with based on our experience or from what we've heard from friends and families. We shall briefly look at what each stands for and most especially focus on how people in long or short distance relationship cope.
First off, in simple parlance, RELATIONSHIP is a mutual agreement entered into between at least two individuals. It is almost impossible for one person to be in a relationship alone. In a case when that happens it may not be described as a relationship. Relationship is been entered into because the individual have something in common and they are willing to make commitments to ensure that the relationship work. Not only that, two people agree to start a relationship also because of companionship. It can be boring and tiring to live this life alone when it get to a certain point in life.
Relationship can birth different feelings between the two individuals which could be that of passion, compassion, fulfillment and also pain and agony. Of course, there are two sides of the coin in a relationship - the good and the bad. Passion, compassion, and fulfillment are characteristics of a sweet relationship where everything seems to be going as planned but on the other hand, pain and agony may set in when things begin to fall apart. There are quite a number of determinants that can determine whether or not a relationship will work out as well as the duration of the relationship.
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One of these determinants is LOVE. Love is a feeling or emotion which an individual develop for a particular thing or person. Now, I will like to establish the fact that an individual may develop love for another individual without the other person reciprocating this love, but if this love is reciprocated that is when it is safe to say they are both in love. In some cases, the other person may not develop this feeling of love at the early stage, so it may take the other person (usually the man) to convince the woman of his genuine love which may bring about a gradual change in perception.
DISTANCE is the space that exist between two partners and it can be a short distance or a long one. However, there are different perception about the short and long distance relationship. Some people prefer one over the other for different personal reasons. Let us take for example that I am in a relationship with some guy who do not stay in same country with me and we all know the process of getting visa to go visit someone in another country. How do you deal with the distance? You might not see each other for a whole year - remember OUT OF SIGHT IS OUT OF MIND.
It is at that point that different questions will keep popping up in your head. Does he even still remember me? What is he doing at the moment? Will he ever come back to me? Are we going to ever work? And so on. Personally, long distance relationship have not been my thing. It really seem impossible because after some month of regular phone conversation we would not even know how communication will just die off and that's how the relationship too will end, irrespective of long calls, video calls, email etc
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Well, if you are a fan of a long distance relationship how do you keep this relationship to the point of marriage? Because what seem impossible to me is possible to someone else reading this. How do people in long distance relationship stay true to each other with out cheating? How do they cope with not seeing each other for months and years because most times you need that human touch badly, you need to hold someone's hand, walk into a shop together, place your order like couples do. There are times when you want someone to cuddle you, hold you tight and kiss you and so on and so forth. But this isn't possible with those in distant relationships and I ask again how do you cope, what memory's do you hold on to for this long?
Thank you for your time lovelies.
The post is originally written by me 💕@debbie-ese💕
Well some people have the strength for long distance relationship..as for me it is a NO NO