活得通透的样子 A Man Who Has Become Insightful

A person who learns to be insightful refers to having a clear understanding of himself and the world around him, and being able to see through the essence of things.

1.Pretend to be deaf and mute, not asking about things that have nothing to do with oneself. Even if someone says 1+1=3, if you do not raise your hands in favor, you should not express your opposition. In a unit, although it may seem calm on the surface, there are hidden currents surging underwater. If you stop and want to see what's going on, you may slip into the abyss. Maybe a monster will emerge from the water and drag you into the water. So, it's better not to inquire, not to get involved, and to stay away from it.

2.Try not to trouble others, and do not let others trouble you. Sometimes when I go to the cafeteria for lunch, someone asks me to pick it up for him, and the next day he still asks me to do, but he just doesn't want to run errands. On the third day, I found an excuse not to go. Some people like to take advantage of others and like to trouble others, but who wants to be troubled by others? Everyone is an independent individual, and to be free is the best state.

3.Talking about the past, regardless of the present, discussing the international and domestic situation, not talking about things around you. When talking to colleagues, it is important to talk about things that are far away in terms of time and distance, such as the Three Kingdoms and the Water Margin, historical figures, the Russia Ukraine conflict, the Palestinian Israeli conflict, the visit of US Treasury Secretary Yellen, and the domestic economic situation, but never talk about people and things in your unit. Because walls have ears, and because human heart is unpredictable, you treat others as your confidants and speak from the bottom of your heart. Others may treat you as a fool and even spread what you say in a way of embroidering. At that time, wouldn't you be looking for embarrassment on your own?

So, it's important to maintain a distance from everyone and not speak from the bottom of your heart.

4.Free and alone, settling down and striving to improve yourself. Without strength, it is useless to know anyone. It's better to live in your own world and work silently than to exhaust yourself with useless socializing.

Some person says that the more people he knows, the more he likes dogs because dogs are loyal. This person was probably betrayed by a friend, and since then he has been living in seclusion. Occasionally going out,, he wears a hat and sunglasses, wrapping himself tightly and hesitating to greet acquaintances. Instead, when encountering someone else's pet dogs, he would playfully tease and caress them.

Sometimes, the fewer people we know, the better, and instead, we seek peace of mind.

Some people say that there should be a distance of a bowl of soup when treating family members or relatives. You can live very close to your relatives and bring a bowl of hot soup over, which is still warm. But this bowl of soup does not satisfy hunger. You only help sb. to cope with an emergency, and you cannot save him from poverty. When it comes to dealing with family members or relatives who are lazy and fond of good food, and gambling and drinking, no matter how much money you give them you can save them from the sea of suffering. Instead, you will trap yourself in it.

When dealing with colleagues, there should be a distance of paper. To see through without disclosing, everyone knows well that some things can be easily broken with just a poke, just like being separated by a layer of paper, to be understood by you is enough.

To treat friends, there should be a distance of a glass of water. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, which means that friendship has no vested interests, just as water has no taste and can only quench thirst. If a friendship involves interests, the friendship will come to an end. The spiritual connection is that of true friends. Laozi said that sounds of crowing cocks and barking dogs were heard around -- two places are very close to each other, people there didi not visit each other all their lives. This is the highest realm between people.The best relationship is there is no relationship at all.

Sometimes I feel pitiful, as if I am very sad. Don't I also live to this extent? But I never tire of it. Have't I already become an insightful man?

一个人活得通透指的是一个人对自己和周围的世界有着清晰的了解，能够看透事物的本质。

一、装聋作哑，与自己无关的事情不管不问。就算有人说1+1=3，即使不举双手赞成，也不表示反对。一个单位里，表面上风平浪静，水下却暗流涌动，你若是驻足探望想看个究竟，可能会滑入深渊；还说不定从水里窜出一个怪物来，将你拖下水去。所以，还是不打听、不掺和，远离的好。

二、尽量不麻烦别人，也不让别人麻烦自己。有时中午去食堂打饭，有人让捎着，第二天他还让捎着，而他只是不愿跑腿罢了。第三天，自己就找个借口不去了。有些人喜欢占别人的便宜，喜欢麻烦别人，可有谁愿意被别人麻烦呢？每个人都是独立的个体，自由自在才是最好的状态。

三、谈古不论今，谈国际国内形势，不谈身边事。与同事谈话，要谈时间、距离上很远的事情，如三国、水浒，谈历史人物，谈俄乌战争、巴以冲突，谈美国财长耶伦来访，国内经济形势，而绝口不谈单位里的人和事。因为隔墙有耳，因为人心难测，你把别人当作知己掏心掏肺，别人可能把你当作傻子，说不定还会把你说的话添油加醋传播出去。到那时，你岂不是自寻难堪？

所以，对任何人都要保持距离，不能全抛一片心。

四、独来独往，沉淀下来努力提升自己，自己没有实力，认识谁都没有用。无用的社交把自己搞得筋疲力尽，倒不如活在自己的世界里，默默努力。

有人说，认识的人越多，他越喜欢狗，因为狗是忠诚的。此人大概是遭受了朋友的出卖，从此他深居简出，偶尔出门也是戴上帽子和墨镜，把自己裹得严实，碰到熟人也懒得打招呼了。倒是遇到别人家的宠物狗，笑嘻嘻地逗引抚摸一下。

有时，认识的人越少越好，反而求的心静了。

有人说，对待亲人要有一碗汤的距离。你可以与亲人住得很近，端一碗热汤过去还温热。但这碗汤不解饿，你只救急而不救穷，对待好吃懒做、吃喝嫖赌的亲人，你给他多少钱都不能救他于苦海，反而会把自己陷进去。

对待同事，要有一张纸的距离。看破而不说破，大家心知肚明，有些事一捅就破，就像隔着一层纸，自己心里明白就够了。

对待朋友，要有一杯水的距离。君子之交淡如水，是说朋友之交没有利益关系，如同水没有滋味，只能解渴一样。如是朋友关系牵涉到了利益，这朋友关系便走到了尽头。精神上心灵上的相通，才是真正的朋友。老子说，鸡犬相闻，老死不相往来，这才是人与人之间的最高境界。最好的关系，就是没有任何关系。

有时觉得可怜，似很悲凉，自己不也是活到了这般境地？可我乐此不疲，自己不是已经活得通透了吗？