生活百态：婚前婚后 Life: Before and after marriage

A colleague said something today, let us judge the right and wrong, but to be honest, it is difficult to use a simple right and wrong to conclude.

The son of a colleague got married during the National Day, and now it is only about a month, and the young couple has an independent wedding house.

In recent days, just want to pay the heating bill, my colleague told my son to let his son pay the heating bill this year, about 3,000 yuan.

In fact, when her son and daughter-in-law were not married, they had been living together in the marriage house for two years, and the colleagues took the initiative to pay the heating bill for those two years, and did not let the son pay a penny.

Now that the son is married, the colleague thinks that it is necessary to cultivate a sense of family responsibility for the two young people and avoid eating the old in the future, so he opens his mouth to let the young couple pay their own heating bills.

But the daughter-in-law is very angry, feel mother-in-law this is calculating, the young couple is still in the newly-married Yener period, mother-in-law can't wait to talk about money is to add to their own. Why did my mother-in-law obediently pay for it before, and now it is my daughter-in-law who has married me, and my mother-in-law has turned her back on me.

Young people can not bear to bear the temper, the daughter-in-law directly and colleagues threw off the face, claiming that she did not need heating, went back to her mother's home to live, packed the luggage and really went back to her mother's home.

The son saw his wife angry, and a big quarrel with his colleagues, scolded his colleagues the older the less sensible, and then followed his wife's adult footsteps to his mother-in-law's home.

Speaking of this matter today, my angry voice trembled and I trembled all over. I bought a house and bought a car for my wife and gave her a bride price, and did not let the young couple have a penny loan. It was too chilling to turn against my parents for a mere 3,000 yuan heating fee.

Moreover, she has only one son, devoted to the good of her son and daughter-in-law, not to calculate them, just want the two children not to live under the protection of their parents' wings forever, at least a family to be independent.

Looking at this angry choked old mother, we all understand her feelings, her angry point is not her daughter-in-law, is a thousand pet hundred love son. But who can blame their own son for failing?

No longer can use who is right and who is wrong to evaluate this matter, standing in the perspective of the parties may be reasonable. But this son is probably not expected to retire.

同事今天说了件事，让我们评判一下对错，不过，说实话，很难用简单的对错来下结论。

同事的儿子国庆期间结的婚，到现在也就大约一月的时间，小两口是有独立婚房的。

近几天正好要交取暖费，同事就告诉儿子今年取暖费让儿子自己交，大约三千元左右。

其实她儿子儿媳沒结婚时就已经在婚房里同居两年了，那两年都是同事主动交取暖费，没让儿子交一分钱。

如今儿子已经结婚，同事认为要给两个年轻人培养点家庭责任感，也避免以后事事啃老，所以就开口让小两口自己交取暖费。

可儿媳非常气愤，觉得婆婆这是精于算计，小两口还在新婚燕尔期间，婆婆就急不可耐的谈钱是成心给自己添堵。以前为什么婆婆就乖乖出钱了，现在是媳妇娶到手了，婆婆就翻脸不认人了。

年轻人哪有忍得住脾气的，儿媳直接和同事甩开了脸子，声称她不需要暖气，回娘家去住，打包了一下行李就真的回了娘家。

儿子一看自己老婆恼了，和同事大吵了一通，呵斥同事越老越不懂事，然后追随老婆大人的脚步去了丈母娘家。

同事今天说起此事，气的声音发颤，浑身发抖，自己和老伴买房买车给彩礼，没让小两口有一分钱贷款，区区三千元的取暖费就和父母翻脸，实在太让人寒心了。

况且她只有一个儿子，全身心都为了儿子儿媳好，也不是想算计他们，只是想让两个孩子不要永远在父母翅膀的保护下生活，起码成家了要自立才行。

看着这个气得哽咽不止的老母亲，我们都理解她的感受，她生气的点不是儿媳，是从小千宠百爱的儿子。可是自己的儿子没教好，又怪得了谁？

已经不能用谁对谁错来评价这件事，站在当事人的角度也许都有道理。可是这儿子大概率养老是指望不上了。

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