Boundaries ensure that you do not get taken advantage of especially if you are a giver as observed by Henry Ford when he said “…Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do…” It protects you from being maligned, dominated or pushed around in your relationships.
Boundaries, when respected, strengthen relationships and brings the partners together because it requires open communication and willingness to see from a different perspective. There is mutual understanding and a deeper insight into what makes each other tick.
The purpose of a boundary is not only to protect yourself so that you can maintain a sense of self but it will also bring you to a deeper level of understanding and connection as a couple. In other words, boundaries are set to help educate instead of isolate.
Boundaries are rooted in our belief systems and influenced by culture, upbringing, life experiences and bonds amongst others and as such are critical in ensuring that your relationship does not sink when it should swim.
God uses the concept of marriage to explain his relationship with Man. Like i said boundaries are set to help educate instead of isolate. The Bible records that "he that worships must worship in spirit and in truth", that's shows that you can't be so engrossed in loving God that you forget that to worship him you need sincerity of heart and it should be done in the spirit because the flesh profits nothing! You will only enjoy relationship with God when you follow laid down principles ( boundaries ). Boundaries are supposed to guide you through on how to love your partner more and not resent them.
Now it is possible to love someone but find yourself pushing against the boundaries they are trying to set. You may start to think there is no hope for the relationship as you have not been able to find a way to make sense of his/her requests. Do not be despondent, instead focus on trying to understand why he/she needs that boundary and how you can compromise.
Remember that “…Love never gives up, Love is kind, Love cares more for others than for self, Love doesn’t force itself on others, Love puts up with anything and Love keeps going to the end…” (Paraphrased from 1 Corinthians 13:3-7 MSG).
I'll leave you with this; View boundaries in marriage as a bridge linking you to totally understand the configuration of your partner and not a wall that barricades you from loving them..