In this world, a person must understand the ways of the world. I am specifically referring to the aspect of rites here. The dictionary defines rites like this:
Gift rush means that relatives and friends go to give gifts when there is a wedding or funeral.
Generally, relatives and friends have weddings, or funerals. We will decide the amount according to the relationship with the other party, or how much money others gave you at the beginning, then you should rush back according to this amount or more. But it can come and go, for example, a few days ago, @mrpointp’s best buddy got married, we gave 1600, when we got married in 2018, he gave 1000, and the price has been rising for several years, so it has to be increased.
Of course, not all gifts and money come as they wish. What I remember most is that the year I first came to school, the father-in-law of a director of our school passed away. The point is that we are not familiar with him. Our group leader actually let us Everyone followed the ceremony and said that we should transfer the money to him together. At first, we didn't think much about it. Everyone transferred it. After dinner, no one invited us newcomers. It's really funny.
I encountered a similar situation today. The mother of the leader of the English group I was in before died of a sudden illness. I have worked with this colleague in the same office for a year. Now I have no intersection. I never invited her when I was married and had children. .
After hearing this news, I was actually considering whether to express my feelings, but who knew that one of the teachers pulled me into a temporary WeChat group and asked everyone to pay 500 to express my feelings. I was a little puzzled.
Immediately afterwards, everyone started transferring money in the group, which made me feel embarrassed, so I could only transfer the money silently. In the end, she collected all the money and transferred it to the teacher. I was thinking that maybe no one would know that I had given it. , a whole species of injustice.
I was thinking that if I pretended not to see the news, would they talk behind my back for a long time? Maybe in the end I will become the target of public criticism, it is really too difficult.
人在这个世界上，总要懂点人情世故，我这里具体指的是赶礼这个方面，字典里面是这么定义赶礼的：
赶礼指亲友家有婚丧喜庆时前往送礼吊贺。
一般亲戚朋友加中有喜，或者是丧事，我们都会根据和对方的情分来决定这个金额的多少，或者是别人当初给你随了多少份子钱，那你就应该按这个数及以上赶回去，可一来二去，比如前几天，@mrpointp的最好哥们结婚，我们给了1600，当初我们18年结婚的时候他给了1000，好几年过去了物价也在涨，那多少要往上加的。
当然，并不是所有礼钱都随心而来，我印象中最深的就是我刚来学校的那一年，我们学校一个主任的老丈人去世了，重点是跟他不熟，我们组长居然让我们每人都随礼，说让我们统一转账给他，当初也没多想，大家都转过去了，后来吃饭，别人都没邀请我们几个新来的，真的好搞笑。
今天又遇到类似的情况，我之前所在的英语组的组长的母亲突发疾病去世了，和这个同事在一个办公室共事了一年，现在没什么交集，当初我生婚生子也没邀请过她。
听到这个消息后，我其实在考虑要不要表示一下，谁知道却被其中一个老师拉进了临时建的微信群，说让每人出500表示一下心意，我有点纳闷。
紧接着大家就在群里开始转账了，让我一整个尴尬住，只能默默把钱转过去了，最后她一起收齐转给那个老师了，我在想说不定别人都不知道我给了，一整个大冤种。
我在想要是我装着没看到消息，那是不是他们又会在背后议论半天呢？说不定最后我还成为了众矢之的，真的是太难了。
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