Unless absolutely necessary, learn to normalise not seeking out people who don’t vibe optimally with you.

They drain your energy, and sometimes your self esteem.

Try work out something mutually acceptable with those you naturally relate with, and constantly seek environments where they predominate.

With a little luck, you will find just that person with acceptable chemistry to ignite a fruitful relationship be it for platonic friendship or romance.

Another thing;

It is okay to woo a woman, but that is different from degrading one’s self esteem.

With the right chemistry, wooing is actually a pleasant experience, as opposed to the emotional suffering that attends a one sided courtship.

Avoid travelling the road of endless wooing at all cost, lest it starts becoming more a challenge and less a desire.

When you win, it becomes a conquest.

When you lose, you become a fool.

Either way, you have wasted your precious time.