Reminding others of their mistakes is a good thing. However, how many people can accept with an open heart when he is reminded. Yes, it's not necessarily because the person is stubborn or has a bad attitude. It could be, the person who reminds or the reminder reminder to pay attention when reminding others. Therefore, you should avoid being unwise.
Never insinuate others when you mean to remind them of their mistakes. No matter how subtle the innuendo is, it will have different meanings depending on the person we are. The person is very likely to misunderstand and feel you intend to take or humiliate him. always say clearly what you mean to remind him of his mistakes, without using satire that often makes other people uncomfortable and misunderstood.
In addition to satire, never use harsh words that are not ethical when reminding others, okay? the people you remind are people who are close and know you well, that doesn't mean you can use harsh words that can hurt your heart. Realize the limits of reminding others, even if you mean well. Because, solving problems and realizing other people's mistakes, these harsh words will actually cause new problems.
If you intend to remind others, but the situation is not possible, for example being in public, then you should postpone it, that's what it means. This is of course very important, in order to keep other people's feelings from feeling deliberately humiliated by you. Most importantly, keep your words so that your good intentions to remind and advise can be conveyed properly.
To be honest, almost no one likes to be patronized by others, even if it is done by people who act as authority figures such as parents, leaders, and so on. Everyone actually wants to hear and get positive input without any impression of being tutored. Not everyone is also brave and willing to express it when being tutored by others. So, it would be nice if you can avoid being patronizing when reminding others.
Not everyone has a good and beautiful past to remember. Not infrequently, the past is more filled with bitter memories that you want to forget. Therefore, you need to be extra careful when reminding other people's mistakes by associating them with their past.
BEST REGARD
@amryksr
Hi, @amryksr,
great post