HOW TO CO-EXIST PEACEFULLY WITH ROOMMATES

Most people's first experience living with someone who isn't related to them was as a college roommate. It has both advantages and disadvantages.

Getting along with your college roommate can help you have a better time in college. You make an instant friend, someone with whom you can confide and keep company on your first trip away from home.

However, because many institutions select your first roommate at random, you face the danger of being paired with someone you don't get along with right away. In any case, here's some sound advice:

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SET OBVIOUS RULES/BOUNDARIES

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Make your preferences clear from the beginning so that you and your roommate can avoid problems.

Determine who owns which space, when you need quiet time to study, which items you can share, when you go to bed, and who is permitted to eat what from the refrigerator.

Some dorms even ask roommates to sign a roommate contract, which lays out your ground rules in paper. You and your roommate might be able to do this on your own.

Make it a pleasant introduction activity, and keep your contract in a prominent location in your room as a reminder. If you do end up disagreeing, you'll have something to work with to come up with a solution that works for both of you.

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GOOD COMMUNICATION

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Direct communication will benefit you in both good and bad times. Because dorm rooms are small, even if you get along with your roommate, you're certain to have a fight or two. Open communication is the best way to handle such disputes.

Because you can't expect your roommate to read your mind, if you're irritated or frustrated, tell your roommate immediately away. Use a respectful tone and carefully select your words.

You'll find that such communication receives a better reaction and, as a result, a better response than simply attacking or criticizing.

Communication is important in everyday relationships as well. Make an effort to interact with your roommate. Inquire about his or her day, or congratulate him or her on getting a good grade on an essay.

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COMPROMISE WHEN YOU CAN

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For me, this is the most important part because you must compromise whenever you are dealing with other people's wishes and requirements.

Compromise is essential when it comes to doing duties around the house, listening to specific types of music, watching different TV shows, and demanding privacy. Your roommate will reciprocate if you contribute a bit.

Compromising does not imply agreeing to all of someone's demands; rather, it entails reaching a mutual understanding.

So, use constructive communication and talk through your differences with your roommate until you can come to an agreement.

Moving out should only be considered as a last resort if you and your roommate are having trouble getting along. Dealing with roommate disputes can be a valuable lesson, especially if you're moving.

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