Talking about relationships

Fortunately, in my youth I lived only one experience of heartbreak, which broke my heart; however, for me it was enough to say I will not drink from this water anymore, I did not want to live a disillusionment of such magnitude again.

I was about 25 years old when this happened, I spent a whole year crying every night and when I finally reacted and got tired of suffering, I decided to focus on other interests other than love. After all, I had a graduation ahead of me, finding a job, so many things to do.... Life had given me a new opportunity: my desire to live intensely.

It took me time, but I got my college degree and my job in a good company, meanwhile, love, thank you very much, nothing to do.

I always had many friends, with whom I could talk and know their mischief, of which their girlfriends did not know, so they were the ones who assured me that they loved the legal one, and I imagine that it was so, because they are still married to them. The truth is that I don't really understand some forms of love, but in the end, it is not my task to understand, only to live.

Being already a practicing professional, many people approached me, I don't know with what intentions, but it was not something I was interested in knowing, I felt very well alone and I had decreed that I would spend the rest of my days like that. I did not look for love, at least not in a romantic sense, it was not really in my plans.

So what happened? It seems that suddenly someone comes along and, regardless of all the plans you have made, you become irrational and no longer follow your own premises, you simply act according to that heart, which when it wants to dominates reason, and a year later, I was already married. I was then 31 years old, I was not a young girl.

On the other hand, a friend of mine who is a contemporary of mine, does want to get married, have children and all those things that I have already experienced, even without having proposed it to me.

She is an intelligent woman, a good person, pretty, professional, with a job, house, car.... In short, full team 😅

She also had a relationship many years ago for which she suffered a lot, with the difference, that she did not consider staying alone afterwards. As I said before, she does want to make a home. Yet, she is still alone, without love that is able to share, all that she has to give.

I firmly believe that love is not sought, it finds you and I think that if it is in her destiny, she will find that person capable of building her dreams together with her.

I always tell her, that this time of loneliness, probably saved her many tears, because that's how I feel. But I know that probably, other tears have kept her company, even if for different reasons.

I wanted to contrast these stories, because sometimes, we waste time of life in longing for what we want, while we miss what is really happening, the present.

Perhaps, we do not have to focus on what we lack, but learn to live with what we have and go walking towards those things that we can get, that depend on us.

Many will think that they can get a love just by wanting it, and maybe so, but in particular I think that there is no formula for that to happen, that only by living our own life to the fullest, we can attract someone who is in tune with our frequency and wants to walk beside us.

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