Appearing something we are not and trying to comply with what others want ends up causing us great harm. This causes us to become incongruent beings and can end up making us extremely unhappy. To comply with what others want just to please them is a mistake, people will tell you to cut your hair, wear heels, eat this and that, I demand things as if you should comply, but take a breath and ask yourself: Do I really want to do this? I am not asking you to make a rebellion or anything like that. I am asking you to stop, to allow yourself to know yourself more and just as you accept others, begin to accept yourself, to know yourself, to recognize yourself, to work on yourself, and above all to listen to yourself.

For me self-love is that, to know myself, my capabilities, my limitations, to choose what I want to improve and work on that, to transform every day into a better human being, to work on my spiritual part, on my essence, to pamper myself, also allowing others to be what they want to be and accepting them as they are, without trying to intervene to change them. It is clear that in life we can share, listen and give suggestions but from love and respect, understanding that each one chooses how to be, where he/she wants to be, and what to do. And even more to understand that things and people can change. Self-love is knowing how to set limits and defend them when someone disrespects them, including ourselves, while noticing and respecting the limits of others.

Having those moments of respite. To be able to stay more in bed under the covers, to enjoy life in full appreciation, to do what we should do, to love and take care of ourselves as if we were the most important thing in the world. As an anecdote, I can say that I have heard that many people complain because when they live alone or for some reason they are alone it is "boring to cook for just one person" so they end up doing anything and eating standing in the kitchen. The same thing used to happen to me, but little by little I have been changing, I pay more attention to the meals and although there are days that are very strong and I have almost no time, I try that this is not the norm but the exception. That's why I once told my mother and a group of her friends. No that doesn't bore me because I get to cook and eat with the most important person in the world to me "myself".