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For diverse reasons we say 'Yes' when deep down in our mind we wanted to say 'No'. We often think saying no may be rude or make the people feel some kind of unpleasant way or even make us lose our relationship with the said person. If a group of people are put together in a space for a specific period of time, very few percentage will have the boldness to say no without thinking of people's opinions or perceptions.
Most times when we say yes instead of no we'd be filled with regrets and some 'had I know' just because we don't want to hurt the feelings of others, or lose our relationship with them. On the long run, you put your own feelings on the line and allow it to be treated anyhow. It is important to always know that you can't please everyone and not even when it's at the expense of your own happiness. It is a sweet feeling when you see that people are smiling around you because of your efforts but it is more sweet when it doesn't cause you any pain.
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It is very important to learn how to say no if you want to be a happy person because when you please people too much (at the expense of yourself) you will be mentally and physically drained. Saying no is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship with people around you as it will help the two parties not to cross boundaries. You are not wicked or selfish when you say no. It is how you feel and it is important to express it. Humans have limits and that is the reason we have the opportunity to choose between two answers - Yes and No.
However, so many people use the option 'Yes' with so much ease and it is not supposed to be so. There are people who have been working for so many hours without rest and maybe food, then someone would ask them to work more hours and due to the fear of sounding rude or being lazy, they would say yes and begin to grumble while doing the work. On a lighter note, no is also an option when you have eaten so much food and you are being offered more. You should learn to know and respect your boundaries if you want to be happy. What is the joy of taking up a task you are not pleased with or eating more than your stomach can take and spending the rest of your day in the rest room.
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In your attempt to say no to people you don't have to beat around the bush trying to be overly polite by apologizing or finding it difficult to articulate your words - just express your mind the way it is. You may shoot yourself in the leg if you try to talk too much and this may lead you to saying what you are not supposed to say. Also, build on your self-esteem so that you won't be short of confidence while expressing your mind to people.
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The post is originally written by me 💕@debbie-ese💕
