Dignity or Ego

This is something that I always wonder not only with people but also with my own self on certain situations. There are some actions that we take or not take because we feel there is some dignity in it that we need to maintain, but sometimes I feel it also becomes a matter of ego. There is a thin line between Dignity and Ego and you will never know when that matter of dignity or you can also say self-respect will become a matter of Ego.

Lately I faced 2 such situations, In my circle, there are 2 of my friends, who around 2 years back were very close to each other, then one incident happened between them and they fell apart. After that they do not wish to talk to each other. Over a period of time one of them has come forward and tried to work it out but the other one does not seem to be interested. She feels that it is a matter of her own dignity and she would want to keep away. Fair enough, if someone does not wish to then that decision should be respected. A few days back, I had organized a get together with some of my close friends to celebrate my hubby's birthday. Since there were many people I could not do it at my home, and the venue I selected was my friend's place Garden and Pool side, she is the one who is willing to move forward in this feud.
Knowing about the venue my other friend rejected to attend the party. Mentioning it was a question of her dignity. I felt hurt because both of them are very close to me.

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I have tried to make her understand that it is high time that she needs to let go off the feelings, but she does not want to. Yes for some time I felt that it was about her self-respect and dignity, but now I feel it's just mere stubbornness and ego, specially when the opposite person is making the move, I feel the matter should be resolved. It's not even a very serious matter.

We all make mistakes and no one is perfect, so when such things happen and when the opposite person apologizes or tries to improve the situation then it would not be very apt to hold on to the grudge. Misunderstandings and fights do happen with friends but then you do not break up the relationship. I feel hurt in this matter, because my friend chose her ego above our friendship. Anyways that's her call. Somehow I too feel now, that there will be some distance always now in our relationships. I cannot be comfortable with people who hold on to grudges. I like the energy to be free flowing and I will do whatever I can to improve such situations but again only to an extent.

There is a very thin line between Dignity and Ego, when that shift will happen we never know also and we may feel that we are doing things to maintain our self-respect but it may not be the same.
This is what I keep saying all the time, we need to forgive and let go. We do not realize that by getting stuck in negative emotions we are also spreading these negative energies into the Universe. We may feel it's a small thing and will not matter to anyone, but we forget how our collective consciousness plays a big role in shaping the energy of our planet.

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