REDPILL VERSUS GREYPILL
Sid:
They are unaware of the long term and short term mating strategies of the opposite sex. Women seem intuitively aware of how their mating strategy differs from men's, but men believe in some myths for the most part.
For example when girls are unattracted to the nice guy they befriended, they will often give him the advice or words of wisdom along the lines of "just be yourself eventually you'll find a girl that will love you"
sammy:
The reverse is also true.
For example when men are unattracted to the nice woman they befriended, they will often give her the advice or words of wisdom along the lines of "just be yourself eventually you'll find a man that will love you"
It's easy for a man to think that women have "the advantage" in relationships.
It's easy for a woman to think that men have "the advantage" in relationships.
Sid:
That advice is actually true for women. Really, men have very wide variety of what they find attractive. Some of us like fat chicks, some of us skinny chicks, some of us like girls who most would find ugly. Every look a woman could have, will find a ton of men attracted to that particular look.
Women are attracted to a small minority of men. I think it was a dating site that did an informal survey on what men vs women found attractive. Men in general found 80% of women on the app to be attractive, while women all seemed to just find 20% of the men to be attractive.
The advantages I mention are in the legal system. I am merely talking about how different strategies are collectively used by each group.
Men just aren't as good at the social games as women. We aren't as intuitive with how the people around us feel and how to navigate social situations as they are, so generally speaking . Men will be honest about why they are not attracted to a woman, and women care about the relationship with their male friend and will not want hard feelings, so will say what best preserves that friendship.
I am not saying either thing is right or wrong, but I do know that, the dating advice your female friends give you, will literally turn you into an incel.
sammy:
Try this.
Imagine, try to imagine.
Imagine YOU woke-up as a woman this morning.
In sort of a Kafka's Metamorphosis type scenario.
What's your strategy going to be to fulfill your "long-term-desire for close human connection"?
How are you going to find someone who will want to know "the real you"?
How are you going to find someone who will not simply fetishize you?
How are you going to find someone who will not simply ignore you until they want the dopamine hit and ego boost they get from their own self-absorbed fantasy?
Now imagine you're 48 years old with a bad back and swollen feet.