Well, that's a first. I thought I'd help out a coastal school with some emergency teaching, having heard how short they were. The extra money is kinda needed at the moment. They'd given me the paperwork to fill out the day before but due to my hubs birthday and working I had a chance.
I did, however, supply my VIT number - I couldn't find the card. You need this stupid proof of registration to teach.
Legally, I didn't even need the card. They also had my vax proof - you can't work in schools here without it. Yeah I know, but I couldn't afford to be out of work.
So essentially they had all they legally needed, but when I arrived to do the day, the business manager was so rude to me, saying she should t even have me on site without the paperwork, which was bullshit. I stood my ground, didn't apologise (what for?) and said I'd have it to her by the end of the day. She literally walked off on me. I felt so sick and uncomfortable I got all queasy and dizzy. I hadn't been feeling too great anyway so it was enough to make me worse.
Then, sitting down waiting for the timetable etc, another person asked me for the paperwork. By this stage I felt really hassled. Did they want me to work or not? Again, to be clear, legally I was good. It was just their bureaucratic lunacy.
When I saw what I had to do that day, including recess and lunch duty, meaning I didn't have a break from 9 to 1.30, I baulked. Fuck this. I was trying not to cry and was really pissed off at the same time.
I went to the daily organiser and handed her the folder, giving her the keys back and said I'm sorry, I feel sick, and am feeling too uncomfortable to work here. It was quite embarrassing - everyone was looking at me.
Ten minutes later I'm crying, watching the surf and feeling like an idiot, when a text came through, acknowledging the business manager was rude, they were sorry, and does that mean I wouldn't consider working there again?
I haven't answered - I'm feeling embarrassed but also angry. Fuck bureaucracy and unfair, unreasonable paperwork. I needed a personal organiser and a week to get that shit together. And life is too short to put up with people being rude to me - it's partly why I left my job of 13 years to begin with.
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I'm sorry for the experience that happened to you. I agree with you, life is too short and you have to be in places that allow us to expand and be in harmony. Health, success and happiness to you.
Thanks so much. I really felt I was going into self preservation mode. I would never treat anyone like that.
Ah, sorry darling. But well done for having your boundaries. I know it may be hard to hold now, but just remind yourself that you are doing the right thing.
It was a weird day. . .we are preparing for Mercury to station direct and it can be intense energy. . .i blew up twice today 🙈 if that helps. . .
i think whatever comes up now is important to address.
Sending love and hugs 💗
I'm having quite an intense time so that makes sense and thanks for love, I totally need it right now. My boundaries are usually flexi as but this time my whole body screamed FUCK OFF...honestly. I just got another apology text and a plea to call the principal to fix the situation as she was also disappointed and apologetic. I honestly can't bring myself to reply, I'm usually first to fix things to keep peace but today I need to just calm my nervous system down.
Just listen to what YOU need and do that, not what is expected from you.
Maybe it was a sign that you needed more space.
Put some Nick Cave on and have a nice cuppa.
In fact, heres some NC for you 💗
Can you feel my heart beat?!!!
Omg I love him and you're right, tea and Nick help!!
I went to the forest and talked to the trees, that helped. 💚💚💚💚
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Hope today is a better today darling. Im planning on actually sleeping tonight, so may not be around much when you around, but i saw these two today and wanted to leave them here for you to make you smile 🥰
OMG I LOVE THESE... fantastic, I love the second one the best. I'm back at teh school whose staff are kind and kids are nice, so it's much better. Still my nervous system really needs some serious work. It's on ongoing battle!
The paperwork we all have to do now is ridiculous. Pedantic, gratuitous, unnecessary, and time consuming. It's the time consuming part that really gets me. We're all having to do more and more paperwork now. Perhaps the better to identify and keep tabs on us, but maybe just a little ploy to wear us down and make us submit.
Sorry about that mini rant pf mine. What a bummer of a day you had. I remember how uplifted you felt when you stopped teaching. A few minutes back there, and it was right back into the crapper for you.
I've been working at the hubs school casually and that's been nice
Rant away.. I was furious. All the info they wanted me to supply, I'd supplied to VIT, the state body for teachers. It wasn't necessary to supply it again. Plus, how dare she be so rude about it, I could have filled in the form by end of day, well most of it, I wasn't going to be able to do all these stupid copies of things they didn't legally need.
Fuck em. Their loss.
It made me so angry and upset, been trying to deep breath all day.
I'm sorry for your horrible experience, and I hope you feel better now. It's really unfortunate how sometimes unhappy people can be so contagious and can mess up your aura and day.
The business manager who was rude to you is not a happy person or she must have been having a bad day if we want to be generous and give her the benefit of the doubt.
Though you must have felt terrible walking away, I think it's always important to choose one's mental health and peace in situations like these. So kudos to you, my friend, and hang in there. Better will come your way in the future, I'm sure.
Totally. I'm all for compassion. Except this was intense .. it wasn't only a moment but an extended attack! And the daily organiser was scared of her too. She mustn't be happy at all to behave like that.
I'm staying at my husband's school coz they are all nice there and I'd rather stay where I feel safe .. thanks for your lovely comment xx
Then more shame on her and I feel sorry for her daily organiser. Yes, if you have the choice, you should stay where you are protected. Peace is always paramount.
Power tripper she was you done the right thing FUCK her you would of got more happiness talking to the trees good on you they didn't deserve you, your better then them :)
Thanks so much!!! Yes that's what I thought .. I deserve better!
My first response is to say, "Fire the Business Manager" but that won't help anything. The business manager has the burden of hiring teachers and acting as a liaison. During corona It has been too difficult to hire temporary teachers. Nobody wants to teach nowadays.
If a teacher comes in with legal requirements to teach then a business manager should say, "thank you" and point to the teacher in the direction of the classroom, apologize for the heavy work load and offer the new teacher a cup of coffee. That's really basic. Schools got messed up with online, offline, etc and sick teachers and replacements that a business manager may have lost a lot of hair by now.
Our business manager changes every two years and moves to another school or another government office after that. Perhaps that keeps them on their toes here and I have seen a lot of good business managers.
I don't know what your choices are there. If there are tons of schools you may want to avoid that school. If it is the only school in the area and you like the kids, then maybe you should give them a second chance. Either way don't get too hung up. He or she probably has a lot on their mind and has no idea what they are doing. The afternoon is beautiful here and I bet it's really nice there as well. Maybe go for a swim and think about it later.
Yes!
Thanks lovely. I shook it off by lunchtime. I won't bother going back though as I have a really nice school I do a few days a week at (sometimes one, sometimes five!) .. I'll stay where I feel comfortable.
I was trying to be compassionate towards her. Apparently she's always like that and people are scared of her!