Are you happy ? 你是不是真正的快乐?

in blurtstory •  4 years ago 

A long lost friend reached out to me out of the sudden. To be honest i was little surprised and worried in the same time. Life have been challenging and many of my friends had actually went on part time work selling MLM products.

But after chatting for awhile she was just beating around the bushes and i suddenly realised what she needed. She simply just need a pair of ears. She had been under lots of stress from work as well as her long distances relationship.

I have no solution for her and all I can do was to offer her a pair of ear and listen.

Before we ended our conversation i asked her a simple question : "Are you happy?"

She is not sure about it.

I then told her try to get some ice cream because you cant buy happiness but you can buy ice cream which is more or less the same thing.

Wising all the best to everyone reading this. May you have the strength to overcome all challenges ahead at this difficult year.

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一位有点久没有联络的朋友,有一天忽然给我传了简讯“嗨,在吗?最近好吗?”
老实说,我其实还蛮害怕受到这种短信,毕竟最近行情真的有点差,身边的朋友纷纷都开始了自己的副业,当起了“微商”。所谓的微商是大多数也就是成为某某产品的代理,而主要的工作就是售卖产品,然后下一步就是不断的拉拢亲朋好友来成为自己的下线,赚取佣金。其实我本身对于这种行销多多少少是有抗拒的,这些所谓的微商近年来就如雨后春笋般,一下子冒了出来。而这些产品当中有不少都是吃下肚的,对于当中的成分是否有通过严厉的合格验证,我确实有少少质疑的。

可是,我最大的缺点之一就是,心太软、就是一个不太会拒绝别人的人。我小心翼翼的回答着,然后再到朋友的各个社交平台飞快地滑了一圈。没有分享什么产品见证,也没有太常更新,嗯。。。应该不是想卖我产品的。我松了一口气后,心理上也没有那么戒备了。

确实她也就是一直问着我一些日常的问题。和她有一搭没一搭的聊着时,我开始有一点纳闷,毕竟我们两不是太熟,我有点搞不明白怎么她忽然就对我的生活有兴趣了呢?然后我忽然灵光一闪,我好像知道她需要什么了?

“好啦,先不要聊我了,你最近怎么样啊?”

果然不错我所料,朋友最近过得不太如意,她缺的正是一个让她倾诉的对象。其实也没有特别大的事,但是就是有一种压抑感,常常就是会莫名其妙感到焦虑,好像生活里面没有什么可以期待的事情。那份给她蛮大压力的工作,明明就是自己想要做的事情。感情上,因为疫情的关系,两人分隔两地。见不了面的感情,女生感觉患得患失也算是正常,免不了有点前途茫茫的感觉。

我很清楚她所有的问题,我都给不了答案或是任何的建议,于是我问她:

”你快乐吗?10分里面,你会打几分?“

“还好吧”

”不是,我的意思是㚷是不是真正的快乐?“

终于,她说”我不是真正的快乐。十分里应该只有三分吧”

“我感觉你好像找到了现在最重要的事情了。我们都要为自己的快乐负责任。那㚷想想,现阶段有什么事情是可以大大改变㚷的幸福度的?

“不懂呀,事事顺利吧”

“这也太过笼统了呀,毕竟人生肯定会起起伏伏。如果什么事情都很顺利,大概也没有什么值得开心的了,因为那已经是日常。就像我们重来不会为了能够自由地呼吸而享受,出门不用戴口罩感到轻松,一直到疫情的爆发,对吧?

所以呀,有空多了解自己,与自己对话、多尝试不一样的事物。You might surprise yourself。对于我来说,仪式感真的不是虚谈,虽然不能解决大问题,但是无可否认它是self care里很重要的一环。在还没有崩溃前,是不是给自己来个充电“

我们后来也继续聊了很多,在结尾前我没头没脑地问她

”你知道快乐是用什么容量词来衡量的吗?

“什么呀?”

“PINT 啊!因为冰淇淋使用PINT 来计算的呀!你一定有听过 。。。“

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