Omo this question hard ooo 🤔. A validly contracted marriage is a blessed union. It is a sacrament and as such it should be held in high esteem as something sacred and holy. In marriage the couples are not United like a yolk and the albumen but they become one in flesh, soul and spirit. For this reason any externalities that would rip apart their oneness in spirit and body is not permissible. The argument that pornography can be used by couples as a means of foreplay to enhance their sexual performance is not always valid. There are some healthy ways to engage in foreplay and achieve similar results.
Pornography presents to the couples things that may not be achievable by them. Pornographic actors and actresses okay according to scripted documents and thus, there could be many trials as errors which can not be replicated in the domain of marriage.
Actions are morally permissible when the good effect does not stem from an evil means. The end does not always justify the means. Hence, pornographic contents as a means to achieve sexual gratification in marriage is not permissible.
“Pornography consists in removing real or simulated sexual acts from the intimacy of the partners, in order to display them deliberately to third parties. It offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other. It does grave injury to the dignity of its participants (actors, vendors, the public), since each one becomes an object of base pleasure and illicit profit for others. It immerses all who are involved in the illusion of a fantasy world. It is a grave offense” (CCC 2354).”
At the baseline of the use of pornography among couples is disunity, abandonment and comparisons. Because men are virtually stimulated than women it is always an issue when the man dedicates his time in watching pornography and abandons his wife. Most times when it is the man’s idea to watch pornography and he insists on trying something new which to the wife is impracticable then, anger might become the case leading to other domestic issues. Sometimes the refusal of the wife to try what may seem unrealistic might lead the husband to seek that outside the house leading to infidelity.
At other times, the wife may be compared to the pornographic actresses shown on the screen and this leads to degradation. Because, most scene in pornography depict the exploitation of women and their depiction as sexual objects, the use of pornographic contents in marriage will lead overtime to the conception of the wife as a sexual object. This will lead to manipulation, and other sadomasochistic activities on the woman.
The problem is that most men are not patient, the tend to rush things when it’s time to fulfil their sexual obligation to their wives. Oga calm down, take it easy, she’s not running. 😆😁You don’t have to tear her apart as if she was stolen. Gradually undress her, say sweet words to her, touch her at different parts of her body, understand how the various parts react to stimuli. Sex must have as a foundation love and not to quench a thirst. It is not to be eaten like food, sex among couples should be celebrated. Madam you sef relax, 😁 open up and stop acting like he's a stranger. Docility also helps the man understand your body well and be able to interact with it. Relaxation before sex, relaxation of the mind and the body is needed.
It is great marriage that begets great sex and not great sex begetting great marriage. You have to get the marriage right to enjoy love making. And pornography only separates you apart from the other by introducing images of outsiders into your minds leading to comparisons and reaping you of the essential property of marriage which is unity and when this is gone, marriage is gone, and sex cannot be enjoyed no matter what technique you apply. 👍
God help married couples to remain faithful and United and not disuniting through the use of unrealistic and irresponsible avenues. 🙏🙏🙏