A dear coworker had a house that was a family inheritance and I say had, because sadly she lost it due to an edge failure and half or part of the house fell down a cliff, but thank God nothing happened to her and her family, but in the blink of an eye she was left without a roof over her head and lost many of her belongings, fortunately she was able to move to her mother's house, but being a small apartment soon began the problems of coexistence, so she desperately needed her own home. At that time neither she nor I could apply for a mortgage loan to buy a house because of our condition of hired, but we thought of making an exception, so that she could solve her situation, but envy did its thing.
From the moment that Credit Management learned of the tragedy of this colleague, they thought of ways to help her in her situation and one of the ways was to prepare an Administrative Ruling explaining the reasons for granting her a mortgage loan by way of exception, It is understandable that they wanted to help and many colleagues were happy about this possibility, but there is always someone envious, so a colleague who called herself a friend, approached the office of the Assistant Credit Manager, requesting an explanation of the reasons why this colleague would be helped and not her, and demanded that she also be helped.
This is one of many stories where envy is present or comes to the surface, in case anyone has doubts, let's remember that envy ***is that feeling of sadness before the good that another person possesses or happens, in other words, the displeasure or annoyance produced in a person before the good that happens to a third party.
Este terrible sentimiento mal sano, creo que ha sido presenciado por todos los que puedan estar leyendo esta publicación y es verdaderamente terrible el ver a otro ser humano sentir tristeza o enojo ante el bien que lo ocurre otro y lo peor desear lo que esa persona tiene, yo me alegro cuando le ocurren cosas buenas a los demás, es lindo ver a alguien apreciado y querido cuando le ocurren cosas buenas, cuando logra pequeñas o grandes cosas, no digo que está mal anhelar lo mismo para uno, lo que es feo es desear justamente lo que esa persona tiene, molestarse o entristecerse ante un logro de otra persona, si trabajamos para obtenerlo ya sean bienes, alimentos, carácter u algún otro lo lograremos con perseverancia, pero creo que las personas envidiosas son inseguras y tienen baja autoestima, en mi opinión, no soy psicóloga o psicoanalista
Ahora bien, dejemos que personas con mayor experiencia en estas cosas nos expliquen qué es la envía, por qué envidiamos y que características se presentan ante un momento de envidia
Es una forma de experimentar una emoción negativa (furia, resentimiento, cólera, exasperación, indignación, fastidio, irritabilidad, hostilidad, pesar, melancolía, pesimismo, pena, autocompasión, abatimiento, desesperación) que se transforma en sentimientos y luego en pensamientos displacenteros. Hay quienes consideran a la envidia como un rasgo de personalidad (Taylor, 1988).
¿Por qué envidiamos?
Porque al compararnos socialmente con otros surgen nuestras deficiencias o carencias, pues siempre hay alguien mejor que nosotros. Así, socialmente la llamada “envidia de la buena”, sería lo mismo que la “envidia de la mala”, pues en esencia se trata de una conducta negativa.
Según Parrot (1991) durante un episodio de envidia se presentan las siguientes características:
1.Deseo por lo que la otra persona tiene, deseo frustrado,
2.Inferioridad: tristeza de las propias carencias o de la inferioridad en relación con la persona envidiada; angustia por el estatus propio; desesperación ante la posibilidad de no tener lo que la persona envidiada tiene,
3.Resentimiento enfocado sobre el agente: resentimiento hacia una persona o un grupo específico; desagrado por su superioridad; enojo y odio hacia los que se suponen responsables;
4.Resentimiento global ante la injusticia de las circunstancias o el destino;
5.Culpa por sentir mala voluntad hacia el envidiado; creer que sentir rencores es incorrecto, y
6.Admiración, emulación del envidiado o identificación con el envidiado.
Now, let's let people with more experience in these things explain to us what envy is, why we envy and what characteristics are present in a moment of envy.
It is a way of experiencing a negative emotion (fury, resentment, anger, exasperation, indignation, annoyance, irritability, hostility, regret, melancholy, pessimism, grief, self-pity, despondency, despair) that is transformed into feelings and then into unpleasant thoughts. Some consider envy as a personality trait (Taylor, 1988).
Why do we envy?
Because when we compare ourselves socially with others, our deficiencies or shortcomings emerge, since there is always someone better than us. Thus, socially, the so-called "good envy" would be the same as "bad envy", since it is essentially a negative behavior.
According to Parrot (1991), during an episode of envy, the following characteristics are present:
1.Desire for what the other person has, frustrated desire,
Inferiority: sadness about one's own shortcomings or inferiority in relation to the person envied; anguish about one's own status; despair at the possibility of not having what the person envied has,
Resentment focused on the agent: resentment towards a specific person or group; dislike for their superiority; anger and hatred towards those who are supposed to be responsible;
Global resentment at the injustice of circumstances or fate;
Guilt for feeling ill will toward the envied; believing that feeling grudges is wrong; and > 6.
Admiration, emulation of the envied or identification with the envied.
Envy is present in all areas and while we do not accept ourselves as we are and understand that there is no need to compare ourselves with others, that everything comes, if we are prepared for it, so let's start by loving and accepting ourselves as we are, buying ourselves with ourselves for wanting to improve every day and be better than we were yesterday, either reading, talking, running, jogging, in short as you decide to move forward, but if you are going to compare yourself do it in the healthiest way possible not to frustrate you, do it to inspire you.
Antes de retirarme les doy las gracias a todos los que han llegado hasta aquí y espero que esta publicación les haya servido tanto como a mí para reflexionar sobre este sentimiento que, si bien es muy humano, no es sano sobre todo si es una constante en nuestras vidas.
Before retiring I thank all of you who have come this far and I hope that this publication has helped you as much as it has helped me to reflect on this feeling that, although it is very human, it is not healthy, especially if it is a constant in our lives.
Algo que mencionas aquí ya al final es tan importante. Es muy humano, si, y es aquí donde vemos cuánto vamos trabajando como humanos para evolucionar... La envidia siempre está allí vibrando, pero está en nosotros alimentarla o matarla de hambre lol. Saludos.
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