I’ve left any relationship that made me have to compromise my own values / joy / alignment. I hve no problem with leaving If something has done its course and we are no longer evolving together. I believe I am here to evolve not to cling to a relationship that’s stagnated or was only meant as a part of my journey.
RE: When The Meaning Of Words Are Hijacked
You are viewing a single comment's thread from:
When The Meaning Of Words Are Hijacked
So these relationships you speak of, you just left light hearted? No hurt emotions, no grudges whatsoever? To me, it seems more like an ideal Imagination of how relationships could be, but in general are not. If it were so easy to detach from a connection to another human, why would there be a reason to split up in the first place?
So, I have to ask: In what way you detached yourself from humans? Is it that you do not have, for example, a further sexual relationship but still maintain a platonic one? That would be a relaxed way of parting, I think.
Or, in the case of a non sexual relationship, you stay friends with whom you parted? Was the other one also in this mood of just letting you go?
In some i was triggered and the made me do some me serious inner work then when I had I realised I had only wanted them because I was trying To seek what I didn’t get as a child and once i fulfilled it in myself I lost that desire for it. Then in others it just felt like we fell out of alignment and I was having to sacrifice part of my authenticity and self to keep in it then i left or just let it fall away. Friends is way easier I’ve alwaus had way less attachment there and let ppl come and go. If people aren’t aligned on the most part they just drift away then maybe years later we re connect as we ended up back in alignment. Obviously some were more fraught and ended in arguments lol I’ve also been blocked by work colleagues etc because for example I didn’t hate trump or didn’t want a vaccine and I’m just happy to let them go and new people come in. I do stick with people but only if we are all evolving together. The core value there is honouring freedom rather than the opinion itself.
Answering to both of your last comments.
I see no contradiction between being authentic and making a concession. I am then authentic in conceding something that I am perhaps less comfortable with than something else, but where I am willing to learn something that is less easy for me.
Between two people in an intimate relationship, there is a subtle recognition of one's own where one is giving too little of oneself and to which the other often comes rather clumsily with hints that, if one is dishonest with oneself, can be interpreted as a lack of harmony.
I'm assuming that you mean it differently than your wording makes it sound to me, it sounds a bit like people shopping. So they have done their service for me (my learning field with them is exhausted), I go my way.
Alignment seems to speak of primary agreement, whereas I see conflict as potentially leading to personal maturity. But if you mean that being in tune with each other implies a willingness to face conflict as an opportunity, I could go along with that.
That coming together and going apart are something like the tides, the eternal arriving and departing, life and death, a total acceptance of this cosmic order. This would presuppose welcoming death too, on a par with birth, with a light heart. This view seems coherent to me, but I see difficulties for people to live it.
If you are someone who finds all this easy, I congratulate you. :)
How should I understand your question about what process I have?
I actually have only dated strong soul connections and not had sex with many guys at all. Some of them have been highly triggering to the point I felt I would die lol but when the growth is done it rly just falls away not always nicely but eventually you find peace with it. But eventually I always got to the stage I could see I was having to be inauthentic or compromise myself in some way to keep it going and eventually would find a way to detach in whatever way necessary to allow in something new.
What would be your process ?