女人的吼声 The Roar of a Woman

The great poet Su Dongpo of the Song Dynasty compared the ferocity of his friend's wife to the roar of a lion from the east of the river. Isn't the roar of a lion from the east of the river terrifying?

Last night during dinner time, I suddenly heard a woman loudly scolding outside. I thought it was the couple upstairs who started arguing again. When I opened the door to look, the sound came from downstairs. Upon careful listening, my wife found out that it was from the family of the East House on the first floor. Saying it was an argument, I only heard the woman's loud scolding, and the man only responded with one or two vague hum and haw.

Neither husband nor wife has a formal job, and their daughter is in her third year of high school and is about to face the college entrance examination. The man originally worked with his relatives in Beijing, but due to lumbar spine problems, he couldn't do heavy work anymore. After returning home, he set up a stall selling duck meat on the bridge in the community. For some reason, the man's stall has been closed for the past few days. Having no fixed income in the family and having to support a student who is about to go to college, life is really difficult for them.

In a family, if a man cannot earn money, he loses his status in the family, even if his wife is also unemployed.

I had a female colleague who had been courting with a boy for several years before being admitted to a public institution. It seemed that the parents of my female colleague were not satisfied with the boy because he worked in a private enterprise with poor benefits. After getting married, my gentle female colleaguewas also very cruel to the man at home, as if she had completely changed into another woman. The economic foundation determines the superstructure, and whoever earns money has the voice and is the leader.

No wonder marriage should be a perfect match, and a beautiful marriage should be like this: You are excellent, and I'm not bad either.

Since the two have come together and formed a family, during difficult times, the couple should support each other and work together to support this family, rather than just complaining about the incompetence of man, let alone making oises like a lion roaring from the east, disturbing the peace of the family and neighbors.

I don't want to hear a woman's roar, let alone a man's roar. Similarly, I do not want to hear a woman crying, let alone see a man's grievances, forbearance, and silent tears.

Sharing joys and sorrows, helping each other, respecting and loving each other, and working hard are the ways to achieve a beautiful love and happy life.

宋朝大诗人苏东坡把朋友妻子的凶悍比作河东狮吼，河东狮子的吼叫声，是不是很可怕？

昨天晚饭时间，忽听的外面有女人高声斥责声，我以为又是楼上的那对夫妻开始吵架了。可开门去看，声音却是从楼下传来的。妻子仔细一听，方知是一楼东户的一家。说是吵架，只听得女人的高声训斥，男人只有一两声含糊的回应。

夫妻两人都没有正式的工作，有个女儿上高三，即将面临着高考。男人原本跟着亲戚在北京打工，后因腰椎问题不能再干重活，回来后便在小区桥头上摆摊卖鸭子肉。不知为何，男人的摊子近几天没有营业。家庭里没有固定的收入，还要供着一个即将上大学的学生，生活真的是艰难。

一个家庭中，男人如果不能挣钱，他便在这个家庭中没有了地位，即使妻子同样没有工作。

我有个女同事，考入事业单位前，已经同一个男孩子谈了几年的恋爱。似乎女同事的父母并不看好这个男孩子，因为男孩子在一家私企工作，效益一般。结婚后，温柔的女同事在家也是对男人凶得很，似乎完全变了一个人。经济基础决定上层建筑，谁挣钱，谁便有话语权，谁便是老大。

难怪说，婚姻要门当户对，美好的婚姻应该是这个样子：你好，我也不差。

既然两个走到了一起，组成了家庭，艰难时日之时，应该相濡以沫，共同努力撑起这个家，而不是一味地怨天尤人，埋怨男人的无能，更不能发出河东狮吼般的吵闹声，搅了家庭和邻居的安宁。

我不愿听到女人的吼声，更不愿听到男人的吼声；同样，我不愿听到女人的哭泣声，更不愿看到男人的委屈、隐忍和无语的泪水。

同甘共苦，相濡以沫，互敬互爱，努力打拼，才是美好爱情、幸福生活的样子。