没有人懂得你的艰难和忧伤 No One Underdstands the Difficulties of Your Life and Your Sorrows

Society has developed for thousands of years and undergone too much changes, but human nature has not made even a centimeter of progress. We should like to ask, what is the difference between human nature during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period (770-221 BC) over 2000 years ago and today's human nature? Almost identical.

The ancients said that people being poor should not visit their relatives, which was summarized from their real life. However, to this day, is it still valid? Poor people visiting the homes of wealthy relatives will be despised and ridiculed by them. Rich relatives do not understand the hardship of poor relatives.

US President Lincoln met a little girl on the road. The girl asked him where he was going, and Lincoln said he was going to have afternoon tea. Lincoln asked the little girl the same question and she said she was going home to see if there was any tea left. The financial difficulties in the little girl's family life are beyond the understanding of outsiders.

The ninth President of the United States, Harrison, had a very poor family when he was young. Some bad kids would mock him and often throw coins before him, but he always picked up the one with a face value that was not the largest. Those bad kids thought he was foolish and threw some coins when they saw him from then on. Harrison never picked the one with the largest denomination.

Harrison earned some income with his intelligence, but how could those bad kids understand his situation, his difficulties, and his sadness?

After all, no one in this world is willing to listen and understand your difficulties and sorrows, and most people actually cannot perceive them at all. If you haven't experienced it, you don't know how difficult it is. Just like the ancient emperor, there was a famine in the world and many people starved to death. However, the emperor was puzzled and said, "If there is no food to eat, why don't the people drink some broth?"

The common people cannot expect the emperor to empathize with the people, and no one can beg for the understanding and sympathy of others.

It's not that this world is ruthless, but that people from different levels find it difficult to communicate. As the saying goes, you cannot talk about ice with summer insects, and you cannot talk about the sky with well frogs. The hardships of life for the lower class are extremely difficult for those wealthy children to perceive! Being in a difficult situation, being able to receive a tear of sympathy or even obtaining a helping hand from others is truly fortunate in misfortune. In general, it is fortunate that others do not drop stones on you when you have fallen into a well.

As the saying goes, heaven helps those who help themselves, which is consistent with the Buddhist concept of "self transcendence". Only by saving oneself and striving for oneself can we save ourselves from the sea of suffering.

社会发展了几千年，有了天翻地覆的变化，可人性连一厘米都没有进展。试问，距今2000多年前的春秋战国(公元前770年－公元前221年)时代的人性与当今人性有什么区别吗？几乎完全一样。

古人说，穷不走亲，这是古人总结出来的东西，可时至今日，不是依然有效吗？穷人到富亲戚家拜访，会遭人嫌弃和嘲笑的。富亲戚不会懂得穷亲戚的艰难和不易。

美国总统林肯在路上遇到一个小女孩，小女孩问他到哪里去，林肯说去喝下午茶。林肯问小女孩干什么去，小女孩说她要去家里看看还有没有茶喝。小女孩家里生活的拮据外人是无法懂得的。

美国第九任总统哈里逊年幼时家里很穷，有些坏孩子便嘲弄他，常扔些硬币给他，可他总是捡面值不是最大的那一个。那些坏孩子便认为他傻，从此后见到他便扔些硬币。哈里逊每次都不捡面值最大的那一个。

哈里逊用自己的聪明才智赢得了一点收入，可那些坏孩子又怎能懂得他的处境，他的不易，他的忧伤？

说到底，这世界上没有人愿意倾听，懂得你的艰难和忧伤，大多数人其实一点也感知不到。事非经历不知难。正如古代那位皇帝，天下闹饥荒，饿死了很多老百姓，可皇帝大为不解：“没有饭吃，老百姓为何不喝点肉汤呢？”

老百姓不能指望皇帝体恤民情，一个人也不能乞求他人的理解和同情。

不是这个世界无情，而是不同层次的人难以相通。正所谓，夏虫不可语冰，井蛙不可谈天。底层人生活的艰难是绝难被那些富贵子弟感知的！处在困境之中，能够得到别人一把同情的泪水甚至伸出援助之手，那真的是不幸中的万幸了。一般情况下，别人不落井下石，便是万般庆幸。

常言道，天助自助之人，这与佛家讲的“自渡”是一致的。自己救自己，自我奋斗，才能救自己于苦海。