我的交友观 My Views on Making Friends

I dare not complement or dismiss the beliefs of many people in society regarding making friends. In their opinion, usefulness is a prerequisite for making friends, and mutual utilization is required to maintain a friendship. This type of friendship serves the objective of being able to use others while also valuing being used by others.

But I don't think this is about making friends; it's a transaction, an exchange of value. When one party loses the value of utilization, the transaction ends. The so-called friendship no longer exists. If there is no equivalent or comparable value for exchange, the weaker party can only bear material or spiritual consequences while humbly seeking assistance from others. All in all, it's just because you are not strong enough.

When you are strong, your relatives and friends gather around you, carefully accompanying a happy expression. When you're down and out, your family and friends abandon you, avoiding you like a plague god. Even if you softly snuggle up next to someone like a cat, they may blame you for losing fur and may even kick you away in disgust.

So, striving to be strong and independent is the pinnacle of existence. Isn't it? Beasts always move alone, save in herds of cattle and sheep.

My criteria for selecting friends:

1.Kindness. Kindness is the foundation of creating friends. Can someone without a nice heart be a good friend? Imagine someone hitting and scolding his parent before turning to talk to you with a smile on his face. Can you become friends with someone like this?

2.Sincerity. A person should be truthful in their interactions with others, rather than always telling lies and acting insincerely. They aren't worth socializing with. You never know which of his words is true or fraudulent, so how can you trust him?

3.Interesting. Interesting people can give you with emotional worth, making you feel pleased like you're bathing in a spring breeze, and deliver interesting and relevant knowledge.

One does not need so many friends, only two or three close ones are enough. Close friends should be kind, genuine, and interesting. To tell the truth, the most trustworthy individual is actually you.

As the saying goes, who you are determines who you will meet. Strive hard to better yourself, and you will meet your best self in the future.

我对社会上许多人的交友观是不敢恭维的，也是不屑的。在他们的观点里，有用才是交友的前提，互相利用才能维护一段友情。这种交友带着能够利用他人的目的，而同时自身也有被他人利用的价值。

可我并不觉得这是在交友，这是一种交易，是价值的交换。一旦一方失去了利用的价值，这种交易也就结束了。所谓的友情也就不复存在。若无同等或相近的价值进行交换，弱势的一方只能是牺牲物质或精神上的代价，低声下气去求别人办事。说到底，就是自身不够强大。

当你强大时，你的亲戚和朋友都来了，围在你的身边，小心地陪着笑脸。当你失意落魄时，你的那些亲戚和朋友都离你而去，想躲避瘟神一样躲着你。即使你温顺地像只猫一样依偎在别人的身边，人家也会嫌你掉毛，甚至厌恶地一脚把你踢开。

所以，努力奋斗，把自己变得强大，独来独往，才是人生最高境界。不是吗。猛兽总是独行，唯牛羊成群。

我的选择朋友的标准：

1.善良。善良是交友的底线，没有善良之心的人，能够成为一个好朋友吗？试想一下，一个人打骂他的父母，然后扭过头来同你笑嘻嘻地交谈，你能同这样的人做朋友吗？

2.真诚。一个人待人要真诚，谎话连篇，阳奉阴违之人，不值得交往。你永远不知道他的哪句话是真的，哪一句话是假的，你又如何相信他？

3.有趣。有趣的人能给你提供情绪价值，让你心情愉悦，如沐春风，又能有趣有意义的知识。

朋友不在多，两三知己而已，知己要善良、真诚、有趣。而最值得依靠的那个人，其实就是你自己。

常言道，你是什么样的人，你终将会遇到什么样的人。努力拼搏吧，提升自己，你终将会在未来遇见最好的自己。

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