迈向成功的三种状态：不争、沉默、独处 The Three States Towards Success: No Scrambling for, Keeping Silent and Staying Alone

No one can succeed easily. Upon careful observation, one will find that the three states of success for a person are non competition, keeping silent, and staying alone. Only those who enter these three states will achieve success.

No scrambling for means not competing or grabbing, burying oneself in one's own affairs without complaining or getting angry, as if those things have nothing to do with oneself. Seemingly indifferent, it is actually a belief in the heart: One meets its destiny on the road he takes to avoid it, and everything happens for a reason. Some people strive for fame and fortune, even causing head broken and bleeding, but what remains in the end? Some people obtain wealth and positions through improper means, but in the end, they lose their health and even their lives. Their elderly do not live long, and their children have no prospects. This is not worth the loss. Some people are honest and hardworking, disregarding fame and fortune, seemingly achieving nothing, but in the end, such people and their elderly have good health, their children talented with a promising future. Isn't this kind of no scrambing for a kind of happiness? Isn't it a great wisdom to not strive for this?

Keeping silent means speaking less or even not speaking, being cautious in words and actions. Talk big and do nothing, and misfortune comes from the mouth. Those who understand and remain silent are wise. Furthermore, those who boast are actually shallow in knowledge, and only those who have more knowledge understand that there are too many things they do not understand. Only then will they work harder, maintain a sense of awe towards everything, remain silent, and focus on their own things. This is the principle that deep water run silent, the more knowledgeable a person is, the more modest they tend to be.

Staying alone means liking to be alone and quiet, which is not the same concept as loneliness. Staying alone is a state of being, and those who enjoy staying alone have already seen through the insincerity and hustle and bustle between people, ultimately realizing that they can only rely on themselves in the end. Those wine and meat friends, those who eat and drink, are meaningless. It's better to work silently alone than to socialize on the surface and seek a sense of security at the table. No one can be trusted in this world, the only reliable person is yourself. It's better to enjoy one's own happiness than to pursue liveliness and show off, which can relieve many troubles and give more time and energy to pursue one's own career.

When a person has no scrambing for anything, keeps silent, and stays alone, they are not far from success.

每个人都不会是随随便便就能成功的，仔细观察就会发现，一个人迈向成功的三种状态是不争、沉默和独处，只有进入了这三种境界的人才会取得成功。

不争，就是凡是在不争不抢，埋头于自己的事情，也不抱怨，不动怒，似乎那些事情与己无关。看似不闻不问，实则是内心相信：是你的躲也躲不掉，不是你的求也求不来，一切都讲究因果。有的人争名夺利，甚至闹得头破血流，可到最后留下了什么？有的人通过不正当手段得到了钱财、职位，可到最后却失去了健康甚至生命，老人不长寿，子女无出息，这是得不偿失啊。有的人坦坦荡荡，埋头苦干，不计名利，看似一无所获，可最后这样的人身体健康、老人安康、子女有才华和前程。这样的不争，换来的不是一种幸福吗？这样的不争，不是一种大智慧吗？

沉默，就是少说甚至不说，谨言慎行。言多必失，祸从口出，懂的沉默的人是聪明之人。再者，夸夸其谈者实则是知识浅薄之人，而知识越多的人才懂得自己不懂的东西太多了，才会更加地用功，才会对任何事情都保有敬畏之心，才会沉默，静心专攻自己的事情。这就是静水流深的道理，一个人越有知识，往往越是谦虚。

独处，就是喜欢一个人静静地呆着，这与孤独不是一个概念。独处是一种境界，享受独处的人早已看透了人与人之间的虚情假意和热闹喧嚣，最终明白最后靠的只能是自己。那些酒肉朋友，那些吃吃喝喝，毫无意义。与其在外面表面合群，在酒桌上寻求安全感，不如一个人默默奋斗。这世界谁也靠不住，唯一能够可靠的人只是你自己。追求热闹和炫耀，不如享受一个人的快乐，可以免去许多烦恼，更有时间和精力从事自己的事业。

当一个人变得不争、沉默和独处时，他离成功也就不远了。

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