There are things we don't keep at Christmas, family problems, family feuds with friends, we don't say anything, but there will be signs.

1 - Why do you think family fights at this time of year are so frequent? Has it happened to you?

I think that because of the same anxiety that the time generates by the same stress that also generates in the preparations and details there are people who do not collaborate others who do there are people who do not arrive on time others who do then begin to quarrel problems and people who feel they work more than others within the family and then there is always that susceptibility and people are like that touchy to explode and say any number of things, but it is the same environment that becomes a bit difficult because there is a lot of social pressure.

2 - How are your emotions at this time of the year, how do you feel, how do you handle Christmas?

In my particular case, as I am the only woman in my house and the one who has the responsibility of the dinner and what we are going to consume, well, I myself am in charge of buying things and preparing them, of course this year my son has helped me because he already has his cooking course, but I am the one who puts the special touch to the Christmas dishes, the hallacas, the salad, and in part there has been pressure because I want everything to turn out well and we all have a delicious dinner, but I have been quite busy with my work, but you could say that I have taken it easy what I could find against what I could not find I simply did not throw it into the preparations, "I will not stress", is my motto.

3 - Have you ever lost someone at this time (by death, separation or migration)? How do you cope with it, how do you handle it? Do you think that talking about it is important for healing?

Two important things happened to me on this date on December 23rd my grandmother died, a very important part of our family, the matriarch who taught us to make the hallacas for which we gathered every year in her house for the end of the year and I took it as thinking that she died in her favorite time of the year, even the tree was put up and she said that we should leave everything as it was, we wanted the dinner as it was, we wanted the dinner to be the same as it was, we wanted it to be the same as it was. It was hard that night of New Year's Eve and Christmas was very hard, it was my mother's mother and a year ago because of the migration a family very dear to me left here in Colombia due to pressure and persecution because he is a journalist and under certain circumstances in which the Colombian government was in, Well, there was a certain kind of harassment and I really miss them a lot, but I understand that things happen because they have to happen, death is inevitable and life changes for people too, I have no reason to feel bad because my grandmother has moved on to another plane and my friends are living somewhere else, that is their mission and I have no reason to feel bad, what I do miss is the closeness.

4- Do you feel obliged to comply with certain traditions? What happens when you don't have the economic support to be able to comply, does it generate anxiety?

Well, I do feel obliged perhaps because I was raised in a very traditional family with a lot of hallaca and chicken consommé dinner and I was raised that way and, therefore, I feel that I must continue with the tradition before I did not stress more now I am not in another country where obviously those dishes are not popular or frequent at the time and of course of ingredients that are hard to find, but if I did not find them I did not find them this time I said I was not going to stress or generate anxiety I ate my Christmas dish hallaca with chicken salad and baguette bread because I did not find ham bread I am not going to suffer because of that so I substituted it, we were thankful we ate the same way we had plenty in my house so no stress.

5 - What else would you add to the list? What else don't you talk about during these dates? 🤔

We don't talk about family secrets, we don't talk about, about scarcity, we don't talk about things from the past. We go looking towards the present, leaving everything behind, having our hands a new blank notebook with 365 pages to write.

6- Could you summarize DECEMBER in one sentence 😁.

"Live each day as if it were your last" holds true for every month of the year.

We can say that it is a very stressful month of much anxiety there are many people planning trips planning parties branching gift exchanges reunions the important thing of all this is to live it and enjoy it as much as possible as if it were the last day always hoping for the best and that every day that passes is a new opportunity to achieve what we have always wanted every day is a step closer to what we really want. Happy December to all.

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