Hello beautiful people. Conflict refers to a disagreement, incompatibility, or clash between individuals, groups, or interests. It can manifest in various forms, such as:
- Interpersonal conflict: Disagreements or clashes between individuals, often due to differences in values, beliefs, goals, or opinions.
- Intrapersonal conflict
- Organizational conflict
- Cultural conflict
- Conflict of interest.
Conflict can be:
- Constructive: Leading to growth, learning, and positive change.
- Destructive: Resulting in harm, damage, or stalemate.
In this context, our focus is on interpersonal conflict.
Conflicts are inevitable in relationships because the two parties are from different upbringings; there are bond to be disagreements. Partners should seek to know how to resolve conflicts because it strengthens them.
Four bad ways to deal with conflict:
- Withdrawing: this is the attitude of “I cant win” thereby losing the opportunity to resolve the situation.
- Winning: here one party is only concerned with always winning the argument.
- Compromises: you give in to your partners demands because well, he/she also does same for you.
The only good way you should adopt to resolving conflict is having the attitude that whatever come your way you know it is to help to move forward in life.
Effective conflict resolution involves understanding the root causes, communicating effectively, and finding mutually beneficial solutions.
■The underlining cause of conflict is anger. Admit that you are angry, don’t bury an emotion because suppressed anger only heap up.
■Discover the cause of the anger.
■Control your anger.
■Focus on tackling the conflict not each other. Identify what is troubling you and ask yourself how you contributed to the conflict.
■Deal with the issue as soon as it occurs because troubles like babies, grow bigger with nursing.
Resolve conflicts before you sleep!
■Be prepared to admit you are wrong! What makes you not admit is pride and pride is destructive!
■Focus on the resolution not only looking at the problem.
■End all conflicts by asking your partner for forgiveness. Forgiveness is not forgetting but you will not feel bitter about what happened when you remember.
■Couples should see conflicts as “springboards to marital uplift” (For the married.)
You forgive not because you are weak, but because you value your partner above all mistakes. I wish us all a healthy relationship experience!
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