Hello beautiful people. People will create perceptions of you based on 3 key things.
- What you look like.
- What you say or don't say.
- What they deduce when they compare their perception of you to that of their own.
There is a reason why it is said that you will be addressed how you dress. You must learn to dress appropriately for each occasion.
Dress as a word goes as far as your grooming, your clothes, your accessories, and even as far as your gadgets - do you know people with iphones or Samsung phones are immediately perceived as doing well even if they aren't in comparison to someone using an old phone or torchlight phone with sellotape - your car, your house, the things in your house, and even the person standing beside you can be included in the configuration of "how you dress".
A well-dressed wife with a not-so-well-dressed husband will cause people to perceive that all is not well, and the reverse is the case as well.
Your pictures online and even the environment you stand to take the pictures can be included in the description of "how you dress"
A lot goes into it.
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Let's paint an example for each one.
Example 1:
When you see a young man with tinted hair holding an iPhone, wearing a sagging jeans and a large polo with jewelry on his neck, and wearing Crocs with one scantily dressed lady by his side,
What is the first perception that comes to your mind of who he is?
A civil servant? or
A yahoo boy?
Secondly, what you say or don't say matters a lot.
People listen to what you say on weighty matters or how you keep quiet when decisions are being made. Your contributions, are they from a place of maturity, from an emotional place, or ignorance? I remember a senator who said we cannot store data in the cloud out of ignorance. The same goes for anyone; at an interview I watched online, something happened, and it imprinted on me a lot. A lady was asked a question, and she told the interviewers she needed a minute to think about it. She also asked for a bottle of water.
Do you know what?
They gave her water and also gave her more than that minute to think. Her answer was structured and based on proper thought. She elevated her perception in their eyes and mine.
Example 2:
When you go to a junction to board a car and the driver keeps shouting "NA one chance remains"
Will you take that car?
Lastly,
Individual differences in perception matter a lot. Your level of exposure will determine how your mind perceives something. You can say you have a goal of making 2 million before the end of the year and somebody with a small mind will be like... In which country?
Do you know that someone else will come and tell you 2 million is too small, make it 20 million?
The three of you have different perceptions of what you can make within a month.
The person who sees 2 million as too much will perceive you as a big man compared to him, while you will perceive the person aiming for 20 million as a big man compared to you.
And the reverse is the case.
Example 3.
This one is a little funny,
We experimented recently by combining all the three key elements of perception above.
The MD of an organization decided to pose as the gateman to welcome people for a partnership event in his organization. He used an artificial mustache and wore security clothes, even cutting his hair down. Out of 80 participants, he greeted, "Good morning, sir, welcome to so and so..."
Only 3 people greeted him back "Good morning sir"
The rest didn't bother to greet them; they just asked where to park their cars or if the event had started; some didn't even answer him or acknowledge him.
It was when he came on stage with his security clothes that many of them realized they had goofed.
Only those 3 who greeted him back got the partnership with him.
