Improving Your Day - How to Be Positive is the third in the series of "8 Habits for Improving Your Day". In this series, we have focused on the importance of taking a step back from the critical thinking and the instant decision style of the most successful people and look at things from a much more relaxed perspective. When you look at things in this manner, you can then make a much more informed decision when making decisions about improving your day.
First, it is important that you understand that no one is ever going to be impressed by what you tell them. The goal here is to keep things simple and direct. This will eliminate a great deal of the critical analysis and nonconstructive feedback that inevitably come with making decisions based on what someone else thinks or feels. You don't need to take every single thing you are dealing with personally; you need to focus on the things that are concrete. Let's take a look at a couple of examples:
I know you are very focused on the immediate outcome. When you focus on the end result, you miss out on the process. If you ignore the process completely, you won't be able to see how things are really connected. This can cause you to miss out on opportunities to improve in your life and position you in a better position to make future goals. When you get overly focused on the end result, you can shut down the process.
I am going to focus on the way you word things when you are making a decision. Too often, we say what we want to hear instead of saying what we really mean. It is very difficult to admit that we don't know what we mean most of the time. What you really should be focusing on is the quality of work you produce.
It goes without saying that the better your organization is run, the more efficiently you will be able to do your job. However, people assume that organizational structure means having people with the same skill sets working under one senior manager. If you take this premise to the extreme, you will end up with an army of cubicles. In actuality, there needs to be a careful balance between people who possess different skill sets and those who work together as a team.