Would the wrong answer then be a reason for not wanting to dance with me anymore?
yeah, my impression of bars and clubs in general
are places where people go, seeking sexual intercourse
and if you're not "aligned" (gay, straight, bi) with the person asking
then they can quickly figure out "if they have a chance with you"
Where is the challenge?
I find it utterly unsexy to come out so directly. It's clumsy, to say the least. The appeal lies in the challenge to find out if sex can be fun with someone whom I don't know yet. It can be both, a disappointment and a pleasure. It can become a danger, and that also is a thrill people seek.
Somewhere I have heard the expression "if there is a right for safe spaces then there is also the right for unsafe ones", or something similar (like right to get raped). LOL
If I expect to get a guaranteed sexual outcome, I don't accept the challenge and want to be safe everywhere. That makes life boring and dull.
I did not meet this culture here in Germany back in the times when I went clubbing.
i guess that's american's for you
"i don't want to waste-my-time if there's no punch-line"
I met a lot of people during my nine months stay in CAL. I found them refreshingly happy to contact strangers (in this case, me). I was asked if I want to have a lift with the car with my grocery bags and I was so delighted by this unusual offer that I immediately said "yes". You wouldn't get this offer standing in line in a German supermarket.
That would be the other side of the spectrum as the woman who took me to my friends house was not up for a punch line.
Americans are know for their aggressiveness and of course, that cannot be said about all of you. This can be potentially bothersome as well as potentially inspiring.
People made vacations in Thailand in order to get laid. But I would say that it was much easier to do that in the States. HaHa!! At least, for me as a female.
The aggressiveness, on the other hand, can be a bit scary if you are not used to it.
Here, in my country, police officers never wanted to educate us (this may have changed in the meantime). One time I was giving a safe trip home from police who drove behind me in order to accompany me because two of my back lights got broken during my journey. They escorted me 25 Kilometers until I arrived safe at my moms house. They easily could have lectured me and ordered to park the car and could have given a damn of how I managed to get home. But they decided otherwise.
well, there are a lot of "cultures" in america
east-coasters often find it difficult to relate to west-coasters
i know the same goes for italy as well, don't put a sicilian and a calabrese in the same room
Same here between the directions. Tendencies can be spotted.
also, often people who offer to help you load your groceries are looking for tips ($$)
HaHa! I never would have thought that and the lady (and her car) who gave me the lift didn't look like needing cash. I am a character who thinks good of herself (in most situations) and you could trick me when you please me, at least, when I was younger. I never thought of the possibility that ANYONE could talk bad about me, can you believe it? So, getting in a strangers car was a welcomed experience. HaHa, I must think now... if she indeed was at me for a tipp! LOLOLOL :D