There was a woman whose husband loved her very much. The woman was asked the secret of her happy life. Does she cook delicious food? Or is her husband fascinated by her beauty? Or has she been a woman with many children? Or is there another secret to her love? The woman replied: The means of a prosperous life after the existence of Allah are in the hands of the woman herself. A woman can make her home a paradise and a hell if she wants to.
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Don't think that wealth is the cause of happiness. There are many rich women in history who
Her husband separated from her. Nor is it a great virtue to be a woman who gives birth to many children. Many women gave birth to ten children but they could not find any special love from their husbands and it was time for divorce. Cooking well is not a virtue. Despite cooking in the kitchen all day, women are seen complaining to their husbands. Then tell me the secret of this happy life? And how did you deal with the problems and difficulties between you and your husband? She replied: When my husband was angry and there is no doubt that my husband was very angry.
I was completely silent in those moments (with the utmost respect). Be quiet with respect, that is, do not look down. Man is very wise and can understand such a situation. So why didn't you go out of the room like that? He said: Be careful not to do such thing, it will make you feel like this, you want to avoid it and do not want to know its point of view. Silence is necessary, but the husband must not only listen but also agree. When my husband finished, I would leave the room, because after all this noisy drinking, I thought he needed to rest. In my daily routine
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And try to keep your mind off this war. So what did you do in that environment? Leaving the conversation for several days, she said: No, the habit of giving up speech is very bad and is like a double-edged sword that spoils the relationship with the husband. If you stop talking to your husband, it can be painful for him at first. He will try to talk to you first. But as the days go by, he gets used to it. If you stop talking for a week, he will develop the ability to speak for two weeks and maybe he will learn to live without you. Make it a habit for your husband to feel frustrated without you, just as you would for him. As if you are the water with which he lives. Bad Saba Bano is not bad. What did you do after that?
The woman said: I will take her juice or hot tea in two or three hours and she politely asked him to drink tea. I was sure he would stop drinking tea or juice. My dealings with my husband were such that there was no talk of resentment or fighting between us. While now my husband was insisting on me and asking again and again if I am not angry with him? Whenever I don't answer, I'm not angry at all. After that he always apologized for his rude behavior and talked to me lovingly for hours. So can you believe his loving words? Of course. I am not ignorant.
That I should believe what my husband says to me in anger and not believe what he says to me with love and calmness? So where did your self-esteem go? Is honor the name of a person whom you believe in the bitter words of an angry person and make it a matter of your self esteem but do not pay attention to what he is saying to you in a loving and calm manner. ! I immediately forgot the sarcastic and harsh words given in this state of anger and began to listen carefully to their loving and useful words. Yes, the secret of a happy and loving life is in the mind of a woman but this secret is tied to her tongue.
Ways to increase your love for your wife
Special prescriptions to increase the love of wives, and that too free of charge. Talk to your spouse for a while. When was the last time you were groomed for your wife ?? Like men want their wives to beautify them
Like, women want their husbands to be their beauties too. Remember that Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to use a toothbrush when returning home and always liked good fragrance. 2. Choose a beautiful name for your spouse: Use a beautiful name for your spouse. The messengers of Allah used to call their wives by such names
Which he liked very much. Call your spouse by the most beloved name, and avoid names that hurt their feelings. 3. Appreciate the virtues: Don't treat your spouse like a bee. In our daily lives we don't even think about the bee until it annoys us. In the same way, sometimes a woman does not get the attention of her husband even after doing good deeds all day long
Any mistake she makes attracts her husband's attention. Don't do that, it's wrong. Appreciate his qualities and focus on those qualities. 4. Just ignore the mistakes: If you see your spouse making a mistake, forgive. This is the method adopted by the Holy Prophet (sws) that when he saw something inappropriate from the wives of the purified ones, he kept silent. Very few Muslim men specialize in this style. 5. Smile when you see your spouse: Whenever you see your spouse, smile when you see him and hug him often. Smiling is charity and your spouse is no different from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine what your life would be like if your spouse always saw you smiling. Remember the hadiths when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to kiss his wife before going for prayers while he was fasting. 6. Thank you: All that your spouse does for you
Yes, thank them for all that. Give thanks again and again, for example dinner at home. She cooks for you, cleans the house and
Dozens of other things. And sometimes the only 'compliment' she deserves is that 'there was less salt in the curry today'. For God's sake! Don't do that Be grateful to him. 7. Keep your spouse happy: Ask your spouse to tell you about 10 things you did for him / her and those things will make him / her happy. Then repeat these things for your spouse. It may be difficult to know what makes her happy. Don't speculate about it yourself, find out directly from your spouse and keep repeating such moments over and over in your life. 8. Take care of comfort: Do not underestimate your partner's desires. Comfort her Sometimes husbands look down on their wives' desires. Don't do that The Holy Prophet set an example for us in this incident
Hazrat Safiyya (RA) was weeping. She explained that the reason for this was that he had made her ride on a slow camel. He wiped away their tears, comforted them and brought them (new) camels. 9. Make fun: Make fun of your spouse and entertain him. See how the Messenger of Allah used to run in the desert with Hazrat Ayesha (RA). When was the last time you talked to your wife? 10- Try to be better: Always remember the words of the Holy Prophet (saw): “The best of you is the one who treats his family well. And I am the best of you all. I am. Do not forget to pray to Allah to make you better in the end, especially to make your married life successful. God knows best.
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