In regards to dating

08:41 AM - YouTube

​@Marti Frey, but to be fair, I have never actively tried dating a woman that I really wanted yet. So, I can't say I can't. I can only say I haven't yet.

Reexamining Priorities

02:22 PM - YouTube

​@Marti Frey, and some women did come to me and I had opportunities to date some of them and I chose not to. I can say based on experience, the dating coaches can be right to an extent, women came to me while I was living life. I have to be clear, I was not trying to date and I even turned down a few offers. I've kept a few in the friend zone. Now that I'm 35, I'm beginning to feel like I should have dated some of the women who were interested in me. I chose not to make time for them throughout the course of my life. I may choose to actively date women in 2021. I'm at that point in my life I should probably stop procrastinating. I should reexamine my lifelong priorities.

​@Marti Frey, there were times I fell in love with a few women here and there through my journey in life and I would tell myself I don't have time to pursue those relationships outside of casual friendships I had with them. I would have a fear that I would be too busy to juggle priorities in life and was also worried that I wouldn't have enough money to take care of any potential GF. So, I was always telling myself I had to do this or do that and save up a bunch of money and become successful and settle down and everything with a career before I get my hands dirty in dating. And before I knew it, I was 35 I guess. I'm probably going to make myself date eventually. But it can be tough with all things I do and all things I try to do in my life. I'm not sure if I can settle down. I like being free to do anything at any time.

Oatmeal Dating
2020-12-20 - Sunday - 02:37 PM

I came up with this idea while in the bathroom.

I want to write articles and make 30 minute episodes, videos, shows, going over Oatmeal Dating which is all about Oatmeal Joey Arnold seeking after courtship and dating and all of that. I'm Joey, born 1985 in Oregon. You can Google my name for more info. I want to focus this Oatmeal Dating series on my personal life in regards to dating and eventual marriage. But I want to highlight the possibility of failure that I could remain single forever and I can be ok with that. Not that I will be ok with it but can be. The show may be boring at times. In the first episode especially, I want to focus on how the show and the articles I write, the photos, memes, GIFs, PDFs, graphics, art, emails, comments, posts, Tweets, videos, etc, that I put out relating to all of this can be boring. I'll try not to repeat myself in what I say. I'll try not go down too many rabbit trails for too much of time to talk about connected stuff or related things. I love connecting things. For example, I'll try not dive too far into politics, history, health, science, medicine, other subjects, categories, topics, hashtags, tags, etc, anything that may or may not be related or not related completely or partly. That's a disclaimer I would cover in the first episode. I may cover details regarding my dating life or lack thereof. When I date, I may want to have a constitution or a bill of rights of things I cannot compromise with. Like thou shalt not murder meaning I shouldn't date Dexter Morgan until if you think he is killing and not dating. There are so many debates people can have in regards to what to believe, morality, ideas, objective truth. It can be better to know where your line is. It's good to have life goals and to make sure your potential BF or GF matches those same priorities. They should be going the same direction in life you are. I would want somebody who is funny like me and who does some or all of the things I do in life both offline and especially online. In some ways I feel I want somebody who is the opposite of me and yet I have felt like I have been all over the place and I have not always been sure who I was. Now that I am 35 in this current year of 2020, I feel like I should make some time each year to dating. At least an hour per year if not per month or per week or even per day. I don't know how much time would be too little or too much. But it depends and I'm thinking out loud. In this Oatmeal Dating series, I may go over some or even all of the related articles and blog posts and everything else I've ever published or written in my life that relates to trying to find a wife and everything which goes back to meeting Tiffany Cumbo in the early 1990s and how I like her. I will try to update this note when I can. I should probably have polls and ask people their thoughts and feedback on everything including what my core beliefs should be in regards to what kind of wife I would seek after and the other things too if there are other things like what kind of man I should try to become kind of thing. I'm thinking my core beliefs or bill of rights on dating could grow gradually one thing at a time. For example, I could start with the no murdering rule as my first amendment. So, put that on my to-do list, no dating no serial killers lol I'm joking and yet not joking. I mean, of course, don't date a killer. That's stupid and obvious. And then in the next episode, I could then introduce a second bill or law or rule, no dating a chick who smokes. And should I do that? Maybe. It can be hard as you add more and more rules. So, perhaps I should sometimes consider removing rules sometimes and maybe asking people if they agree. And I can go on and on with all of this. And like I said, I am aware of possible and potential failure in all of this. But I find and feel that the process of doing this can be fun and educational to do such a series or documentary or reality television kind of thing. To be continued, please stand by.