Things Not to Do When You and Your Partner Argue

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There will undoubtedly be disagreements between you and your partner from time to time, whether they be about unpleasant words, domestic duties, or interior design ideas for your new property. However, experts argue that what matters most is how those arguments in relationships turn out. You might even come back stronger if you fight fairly. If you take a few underhanded digs, you might ruin your relationship's intimacy, respect, and trust. Arguments have the power to either deepen the relationship and promote development and forward motion or they can weaken it, causing animosity and unresolved problems.

1 . Assassination of Characters Let's imagine you're displeased with your spouse since, once more, they arrived home later than promised without alerting you in advance.

2 . Excavating the Historical Record As tempting as it would be to bring up past incidents of your partner hurting you during a fight, doing so could make things worse by placing your partner on the defensive. Furthermore, it may serve to deflect attention from the real problem, which means you might never find a solution. Ideally, you should confront your partner about any troubling behavior patterns right away rather than waiting for your animosity to fester.

3 . The utilization of triangulation Seeking counsel from friends or relatives on a recent argument with your spouse is one thing. Asking your partner to do something by text or phone is one thing; asking them to do it via text is quite another. Triangulation is what this is, and it puts your loved ones in a very uncomfortable situation. Even worse, it might make the current dispute worse. "Retain private matters inside your relationship and get help from a therapist, friend, or trusted family member that you both decide to involve."

Fighting Back Vigorously It's normal to get a little defensive when your partner brings up something you did that they didn't like. You can avoid feeling extremely unpleasant feelings like guilt and shame by defending your own actions. The issue is that you give your partner the impression that their feelings are unimportant when you snap to defensiveness.

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