You would be surprised by the type of response you would get if you asked the majority of people who are still single about the attributes they possess that would cause the type of spouse they are dreaming of to recognize them and be proud to have them. The majority of people who are expecting to find their ideal spouse believe that they don't need to have anything or take any particular action in order for that person to notice them, be attracted to them, and develop a long-lasting relationship with them. It makes sense why most of them are waiting in vain while folding their arms.
You would start hearing this typical phrase that unhappy singles who couldn't have what they want do use: "All the good partners are taken" after waiting for a time and still not being able to find it. It's a big falsehood, that! This is only one of the methods that people who were unable to develop the attributes that their ideal partners are seeking for in themselves use to comfort themselves. There are wonderful people everywhere who are looking for their own special someones, but before they will take an interest in you, you must possess the qualities that they are seeking in their ideal mates.
Most of us don't care to consider what our potential dream partners may be looking for in his or her own ideal spouse, and we wonder why we can't seem to attract the partner of our dreams. Most of us only mention the attributes that we anticipate to see in our assumed dream companions.
You must possess the qualities that would attract the ideal spouse you seek, cause them to feel attracted to you, and encourage them to settle down with you. Every time you establish standards by which you will judge a potential partner, you are also indirectly establishing those standards for yourself.
Your ideal partner has a different ideal partner than you do. Simply put, you don't set relationship standards and wait with your hands in the air. It is your responsibility to develop these qualities in yourself. The criteria you have set for your ideal partner to meet in order for him or her to be considered right for you are supposed to give you some indications of what the kind of partner you're looking for may be looking for in his or her ideal partner.
Your ideal mate has his or her own standards, as well. Every characteristic that the kind of relationship you're looking for might be seeking for in their ideal partner must be developed in you. Setting standards is only one aspect of finding the perfect person. You must be the appropriate person to do it.
If you don't develop the attributes that represent his or her ideal relationship, your dream lover might not think you are a good fit for them when your paths do eventually meet. Being the ideal companion for your dream spouse will increase your chances of meeting, attracting, and developing a committed relationship with them.
Therefore, while making a list of the attributes you desire in a spouse, also make a list of the traits that the kind of partner you're looking for could want in a partner, and work on developing those traits in yourself.