Relationship is a funny one. One minute you are in each other's arms and the next minute, you are in each other's faces arguing and fighting over things that make sense and those that doesn't really make sense.
One thing I have learned is, when you truly care about someone, you will argue and fight and thinking of how to jump ship is not the best.
There are times you would feel like, "Forget it, I am done" and in that moment, take a pause and think about why you picked that person in the first place.
The reason why you picked or choose to go out with someone would determine the extent to which you can withstand whatever you face in that relationship.
There would always be the desire to talk to the person, so talking for longer hours shouldn't be a problem which is why I always tell people to date people they can be friends with; share silly jokes, call the person up at odd hours and tell them something that doesn't really make sense. Find a friend in your partner and every other things would be easy.
I understand not many people enjoy talking on the phone for longer hours while some prefers chatting. I am the chatting type and she is the calling type. At some point, the calls were a bit irritating as I would be like, "Come on, we just spoke" but the more I do that, the more she feels the need to not act as her heart leads her but act with caution. When there is a caution, your partner won't act freely and would want to seek an alternative avenue to channel their excitement and when they are not happy with you, they will naturally gravitate towards those who make them happy and that is how cracks happen.
What did I do? I balanced it. I told her I enjoy chatting and would appreciate when I chat her up, she should try and chat while I will never hurry her up when she calls for longer hours again and that is how it worked.
Now, I call her even more and I chat her up only on rare occasions. Finding balance doesn't mean you are stupid not to have your way but for knowing that you would rather lose your desire to be right than lose that person.
The question remains the same and the answer is eternally variable, "What draws you to your partner?"
Thank you for your time.
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