Making the decision to push forward

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I ran across an old coworker recently. She informed me about a relative who had experienced child loss as soon as we started speaking. She was really worried that her relative had not moved on since the death, which happened more than 30 years ago. Do you move forward or do you move on, she asked, as soon as she said it.

We had a profound discussion on loss while we sat together. Whatever kind of loss you may have gone through, it is difficult to really understand what someone else is going through until they have been in your position.

Moving forward differs greatly from moving on, even if the terms may seem to be played off of one another. Even if we might never be able to move on from the loss of a loved one, we can nevertheless move forward by rearranging our lives to accommodate the loss. We can start by taking certain steps to assist ourselves.

Choose - we have the ability to select what is most suitable for us. Grief frequently results in a feeling of losing control after a loved one passes away. We could believe we have no choice but to accept what life has thrown at us. It is not at all like this. We still have the right to choose, even when our emotions are heavy and burdened and we are hardly able to shower. It is true that some people experience grief brain; if this is the case for you and you are finding it difficult to think clearly, ask a close friend or relative for assistance.

Getting advice from someone who genuinely cares about you and is looking out for your best interests is acceptable. As you make your way through this adventure, you still have the last word and can decide what is best for you.

Connect: Grieving alone can intensify feelings of loneliness and be a highly isolating experience. Whether you are an extreme recluse or like to be alone yourself, staying socially connected during this trying period is essential for mental and physical health. It's crucial to support yourself in this moment and maintain relationships with the people you love as you navigate the grieving process. Even though nobody can change your circumstances, simply having someone else there, even if they don't say anything, can be quite beneficial. This existence is not supposed to be lived by us alone.

Communicate - Your friends and family will be better able to support you if you are transparent and honest about what you need and what works best for you. Talking to your support network will help you start the healing process when we lose it and start crying, crying, or getting angry.