Never ending expectations of people around us

When it comes to expectations, they are endless be it from us to others or from others to us. It is with everyone, we all set expectations in life with people around us and when those expectations are not met, we feel betrayed or cheated or unfair, or we just feel depressed. Most of the expectations are unjustified. I too have certain level of expectations from people around me, especially my immediate family which is my husband and son. However, when I think it with a calmer mind and from a neutral space then I feel it's unfair to set these expectations.

Our expectations are our desires and wishes and what we want, that does not mean the opposite person has to fulfill or is liable to do fulfill then be it our very dear ones. Specially between parents and children. Parents always have expectations from their grown-up children and the children may not be able to comprehend it very well due to one major reason being the generation gap. Every generation has a certain level of thought process and it kind of conflicts with the previous generation.

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No one is right or wrong, it is just the matter of perspective. My husband is a little old in his thought process and he on and off gets in conflict with our Son. Both of them have good bonding and love for each other but there is some level of conflict that comes up due to not meeting each other's expectations. They are poles apart in their views one being conservative and the other being radical and hence they keep falling short in understanding each other and meeting up to each other's expectations.

For me, I most of the time take a step back and give a deep thought to my expectations and then rationalize my thought process. This helps me gain some amount of perspective towards the nature of the demand and then come to a level of neutrality and not feel overwhelmed with emotions of not meeting each other's expectations.

I have always seen that there are no bad people in relationships. It is just about the circumstances and conflict of personalities that fall short in meeting each other's expectations and that's where the relationships get strained. A little bit of understanding and also other important thing is keeping ego in control will resolve most of the issues. When the other person does not stand up to our expectations, our ego also starts playing around and furthering damaging the situation.

Expectations is nothing but a image created in our mind as to how we want to see the result of something and when that fails disappointment sets in. But one should always remember that it is our mind anticipating and not necessary that's the way out. It can be other way also and if we are open to accept that other way as well, life will be easy and less complicated.

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