Relationships which are all about human connections, touch and emotions, somewhere is losing it's essence. More and more people are getting into these online relationships, without knowing the opposite person enough and then building such strong emotions over it that when it breaks it just leaves one in complete emptiness. This is what the machine world is doing to us.
I don't know what's happening to today's generation. Why more and more people are drifting away from real connections and getting onto these online relationships.
Most of these online relationships somewhere builds up in the pursuit of filling up some empty spaces of life and time.
In the beginning everything looks fine, there is some level of fulfillment of one's desires, wants, feeling of being loved and opportunity of expression, but as the relation starts building up it somewhere starts getting monotonous and also becomes a kind of an addiction. Yes that's the right word, more then anything it becomes a sort of addiction to fill up that empty space and time. People forget that after all the virtual relationship is not really showing you the real person.
You see what the opposite person wants you to see, but at the same time how long can one be superficial, somewhere or the other the real character of the person will reflect.
Specially in these times of distress, where loneliness is hitting people, these connections happen much faster. For both the sides it is a good feeling, but you really do not know the exact intention of each other. Some may just want to fill up their empty time, some may also want to use it for sex chats, and for some it is an emotional fall back, and there can be other reasons, but is it really expressed, then the answer is NO.
No one really sets out their intentions clearly to the opposite person. After some time when the relationship starts growing it also brings in its own complications of distance and time and that is where the real self starts coming up.
When the reality starts hitting, one starts feeling the discomfort. If the emotional involvement is too strong it becomes all the more difficult to withdraw. You start questioning. Was anything ever real? You cannot really say if it was real or faked up.
Sometimes you want to finish it and end it but you are not able to. Because the emptiness scares you. One does not know then how to make use of that empty time, specially when living alone, and like any other addiction you want to keep going back to it again and again, even though if the relationship has become dirty.
I have had couple of people coming to me with these issues and their major reason of not letting it end is the fear of being lonely again. They want to get a healing done, but they are not willing to let go. I try to make them understand that unless the mind does not allow it to Let Go how will any healing help.
When one is engaged in meaningful things in life, then they may not find any needs of these fill in the blanks with these unreal connections.
Loneliness and emptiness in life can really kill a person. Loneliness does not mean just living alone. You may live alone and still live very healthy with no such need of unwanted baggage's and on the other side of it, you may be living with 10 people around and you may still feel lonely.
For me these online relations are not at all healthy, they are very superficial and need based. Unless they materialize somewhere in real connections, real meetings, it makes a difference. And one should always keep their boundaries intact in every way when making these online relationships. It is very easy to get carried away, so all the more one needs to be mindful and observant of the opposite person behavior.
Today I am feeling sad because one of my very dear friend is stuck up in this chaos. I can see her so much in an emotional turmoil. I have been warning her to withdraw from this since a long time, but she was just not able to. Now that she has decided to completely end it, she is finding so very difficult to control her emotions and feels so much pained. She does not know how to fill up this empty space.
Life is getting simpler with technology or complicated with it, all depends on us. We need to use Technology for progress and not for bringing ourselves in any way.
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