Having said that, there is a better way to go about it. You need a plan of attack. The simplest of all starts with you. The biggest obstacle in your path is yourself.
The solution is a bit of self-education and a little foresight. Now, on to the rest. The next big challenge is your own self-esteem. It's no secret that you are the sexiest sexiest woman in your life, but you haven't done your share of sex-ing up. You need to sex up your own sex to get your share of sex.
So, what to do? Well, there are many ways to do it. The good news is you can do it, and enjoy the fruits of your labor.