Learning to let go of perfectionism can help you find greater happiness. In the previous article, we talked about socially prescribed perfectionism, Idealistic perfectionism, and self-critical perfectionionism. Learn how to let go of these limiting beliefs and find happiness in all of life's little surprises. Then, read this article to learn how to put your perfectionism in perspective and find happiness. You'll feel better about yourself and find the happiness you're looking for in all your endeavors.
Idealistic perfectionism
There's a fine line between idealistic perfectionism and pragmatism. Ideals are a good aspiration, but not if they lead to unrealistic expectations and false illusions. When we're too idealistic, we tend to give up too easily, blaming others and the system, and lose sight of reality. It's important to periodically step back from ideals and compromise.
When we have lofty goals but cannot meet them, we become idealistic. While we may feel proud of our efforts, our expectations lead to frustration and disappointment in many areas of our lives. Idealistic perfectionists feel superior to others because they strive for perfection, but when they fail to meet their goals, they feel inferior. This leads to a life of regret, anxiety and depression. Ultimately, we must learn to let go of idealistic perfectionism in order to find happiness.
Socially prescribed perfectionism
In today's world, we are bombarded with messages that demand perfection and make us feel insecure and unsatisfied. Advertising, social media, and peer pressure all contribute to the problem of socially prescribed perfectionism. In a recent article in Harvard Health Publications, psychologist Harriet Braiker explained that striving for perfection is not only ineffective and damaging but also leads to depression and low self-esteem. We should learn to let go of the ideal of perfection and move towards a life of self-compassion.
There are three types of perfectionism. According to psychologists and York University professors, socially prescribed perfectionism is the most destructive, resulting in depression, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. In the video below, Hewitt describes the causes of socially prescribed perfectionism and suggests ways to combat its damaging effects. These theories are backed by studies, which have found an association between perfectionism and depression.
Self-critical perfectionism
While there is no single cause of self-critical perfectionism, there are certain risk factors. Higher levels of perfectionism may increase an individual's vulnerability to mental health problems and relationships. In addition, individuals who are highly self-critical may experience an increase in anxiety and stress levels. This study provides some insights into the risks of self-critical perfectionism. The results of this study will help individuals identify whether they are suffering from self-critical perfectionism and find ways to overcome it.
Individuals who experience perfectionistic traits report a lower sense of happiness than those who do not engage in this behavior. Perfectionism may cause people to be unhappy in various situations - they might avoid going to class, do chores or avoid social situations. Ultimately, there are several types of perfectionists. Some people experience self-critical perfectionism as a reaction to the pressures of being judged by others.
