All of us are going through our own life struggles at some point of time, and in such moments all we want is some nurturing, love and compassion. Otherwise also any human needs these 3 expressions in life for a fulfilled life. Imagine a life where there is no one to be by your side, no one to care for you, whether temporary or permanent. What type of a person will you be.
What is intimacy for me?
For me personally more then intimacy I long for compassion, or you can say it is more or less the same. Basically I am a loner and in times of distress I like to be left completely alone rather then having someone around. Yes but at the same time I would not mind someone at a distance just being there, I may not share anything but I would just want the person to be around. For me intimacy means having that person around with who I can laugh, feel joyful in the presence and feel no boundaries.
Do you need it to be happy?
Honestly for me, except for my husband I do not express out my feelings to anyone else. After a long day of work at the end of the day we love to snuggle up in each other's arms and watch a movie or catch up on a glass of wine and share our day's events. I normally like to hold his hand and I have this habit of holding his hand even while walking on the road or wherever we go out. He is a very jovial person and he will keep making me laugh with his witty jokes. He has this habit of giving me surprises on and off with things I like the most and that sweeps away my heart. All of this really makes me feel loved and these are the moments that I always look forward to. He knows I do care but I am not very expressive, so he always makes an effort from his side to bring these moments on. They make me feel very happy.
How do you fulfill your intimacy needs, especially during COVID19?
In the last few months, when he was hospitalized I would miss all of this a lot. He was not able to speak for 3 months, for hours I would sit by his bed holding his hand. Those were the moments when we did not have any conversations but only our heart's spoke to each other. In those times I missed all our intimate moments and wanted him to get back to life soon. I would play his favorite music and that would bring a smile on his face. I realized how empty life was in this span without his presence, and what his presence means for me. But still in such times also he would not miss to bring me small surprises. He would order a box of chocolates, he would make sure I am eating properly and have good arrangements of sleep, bath and I am not in any state of discomfort. Sometimes I would have tears in my eyes, in such condition also he would not miss to take care of me and those were my intimate moments with him during those crises days.
Now that we are back to life again, we have been spending a lot of cozy time with each other. Over the weekend he cooks for me my favorite dishes. He makes sure that I am happy all the time, keeps me entertained with his wittiness. These days I am in intimate moments all the time with him. We have been 24 years married and still feel that we have not had enough of being with each other. This thought itself makes me feel very intimate with my partner.
Yes it is very very important to have someone in life with who you can share your heart's feelings, express in a manner that best suits you and get a mutual response from your partner, that brings a lot of joy to life and makes one feel whole.
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