Life is all about living and learning. I always say no one knows it all. No man has the monopoly of knowledge. We are all growing and we are going in life. I love to learn and always seek ways to do that. I am super sensitive, so I pick lessons even in the most unusual way. I have picked lessons from plants, little children, babies, adults and even tragedy. I try to feel human, yes, but when I have satisfied my humanity side in tears and worries and pains, I try to see what lesson is there for me to pick. I tried to ask, ”So, what’s in it for me?”. It is not always easy but then, life happens, so we have to move on.
Some people take it so hard to take advice. Some won’t even listen or entertain it. Some are so opinionated that you have to see things only from their lenses and yet they ask you, ”Are we on the same page?”, to which I always answer, ”How can we be on the same page, when we are not even reading the same book?”.
We need to be flexible. We need to develop the habit of listening. We need to let our actions show that we seek to learn and know. Some people take criticism to heart, even if you try to break it to them in the simplest form. They see it as a personal attack, regardless of how you tell them. (I am of the opinion that, no matter what, try to be diplomatic with how you say things, even as you try to drive home your point. How you present a case, sometimes determine how the person you are trying to correct will respond to it. We are all different.)
Some see it as a personal attack, so before you even try to structure your words together, they already have an answer waiting for you. They try to always be on the defensive and it would be so hard for people like this to learn or get more out of people.
Most people listen with the intent of giving an answer, not necessarily to know.
Some people will listen to you, running through their mind on how to answer you, and they stop listening to whatever you try to say afterwards. Have you ever noticed that? You will get confused and asked, ”Didn’t you listen to what I said to address what you are just stating?: and that is because they have blocked every sense of reasoning since they see everything as an attack and they are only listening to you just to give an answer. That is how most people listen, sometimes. I know this because I have been there before too.
When dealing with others, be gentle, and when others are dealing with you, be subtle...listen. Let go of your desire to be right and win the argument. Most of the times, we know what we have done wrong, we always seek for ways just to make ourselves feel good. Listen and learn. You can get more out of life with this. How you listen matters.
Thank you for your time.
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