Generally speaking, people use one of three communication styles: passive, aggressive or assertive. Each style has a time and place to be used. It depends on the situation and the goals. However, understanding the different communication styles can help you to avoid unhealthy interactions.
Passive communication is characterized by a lack of direct expression of your needs and feelings. Passive communication may also include an unwillingness to listen to or meet the needs of others. This can lead to resentment, anxiety and even depression.
Aggressive communication is an expression of feelings and thoughts in a way that violates the rights of other people. It is used to dominate others. It can be effective when someone feels threatened. But, it is not always the best way to resolve a conflict. The person who uses this style may come off as intimidating, but he or she should not be feared.
It is important to consider whether or not you are an assertive or passive communicator. This is because one of these styles may be more appropriate for the situation at hand. For example, if you are drunk or have heightened emotions, then you may need to use a passive style.
Aggressive individuals will often blame others for their mistakes, whereas passive individuals will act in an indirect manner. They might also glare or talk over others. They may be unwilling to accept the consequences of their actions. This can be a sign of insecurities or limiting beliefs. In order to change these limiting beliefs, it is necessary to examine what is stopping you from being assertive.
In addition, an aggressive individual might be unable to communicate with his or her partner. They may trigger the fight or flight response in their partner and make it impossible for them to communicate. This can lead to barriers in relationships and prevent healthy support.
In contrast, the assertive communication style is a balanced middle ground between aggressive and passive communication. This means that you don't need to be aggressive in order to express your needs and desires. Instead, you can be respectful and honest in your interactions with others. You can also be empathic.
In addition, an assertive style can help you to avoid hurting others. If you feel like someone is taking advantage of you, or you are not getting the respect you deserve, then you should consider using an assertive communication style. In the later blogs in this series, I will teach you how to say "no" and how to think more assertively.
Assertiveness is the ability to state your opinion and feelings in a calm, non-judgmental way. An assertive person is fair and considerate of others' feelings. They can also openly participate in groups. Using this style of communication can help you to get what you need without upsetting other people.
When you are trying to decide between aggressive and passive communication, it is important to understand the other person's expectations. An aggressive person might take advantage of you or even refuse to acknowledge your needs. On the other hand, a passive communicator can be a friend who has something to add to the conversation.