Now that I am in my city, I have plans to catch up with my best buddies in town. Last evening one of my friends invited me home for dinner. It's always nice to have these cozy evenings with friends. She is an amazing cook and a wonderful host; I never refuse her invite. Moreover, I enjoy these moments. We were just 2 of us and we got time to catch up on lots of our talks. We were talking about our lives and how things have been going on with us lately with children. When children grow up, they have their own paths and somewhere we feel disconnected in their journey. I believe that's all part and parcel of life and we as parents need to adapt to these changed and not get fixed with how things were when they were younger.
When our children were young, we were all busy with them taking care of their education and growing up and in those times, we never really got time to talk about our own lives. It was all the time about children, but now that they are all grown up, we connect with each other on a very different level and share about our lives with each other. This friend of mine, whenever I used to meet up, I would feel that she has a very fancy and a happy life. She was working as a cabin crew, had a high-flying career, and financially was better than the rest of the group, and I always had the impression that she had the best life. But then yesterday in our conversation she mentioned about her life hardships and it was quite a shock for me. And then I felt, that my life was much simpler.
Such things happen so many times, we form judgements on the outer appearance of a person. The reality can be completely different. A person may be fighting battles internally but may never show it or let it come out in open. Whereas there are some people, who despite of having all the pleasures of life is always complaining and make others feel that their life is miserable. When I asked my friend that why she never shared about her pains then she told me that, while there was pain, there was lot of good as well and she chose to reflect more on the good. This is what exactly I keep emphasizing on all the time. We all have our share of problems, life is not a smooth sailing for anyone, and at the same time there are many things to appreciate also in life, which one must never overlook.
In my healing journey I have come across so many such people, and I always admire their spirit. They are between a chaos in their life and yet they hold firmly with dignity never showing their wounds and scars to anyone outside. These are the people who give out good energy into the world. At the same time, I also advice that people should not allow these wounds to get deep and they should heal them, else they result into lifelong traumas which at some point of time starts impacting physical health.
Life can be sometimes extremely difficult and sometimes very easy-going. We need to find the right balance and not sway on either side too much.
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