We keep saying maturity comes with age, but personally I do not believe this. I believe that maturity comes with exposure to life. Taking my own example, I feel that maturity came to me at a very young age, though in some areas I was still not mature enough to understand ways of life. With all my childhood experiences and exposure, in my early twenties only I felt like I was in my 40s. I was away from home from the age of 3, due to my parents' issues in their married life, I was moving around like a nomad. By the age of 7 then I settled in one place but that was not home, it was a boarding school with very poor living conditions, so it was never easy there as well. I feel sometimes that somehow I grew up.
My marriage happened by 21 and by 22, I also had my son, there was no guidance, no one to hold my hand so whatever felt right in that moment I went with the flow. With family came responsibilities also and already there were some on hand, like my dad's illness which I was dealing with. With God's grace I had a job in hand too immediately after graduation. With all of this there was no really self-time, or to even realize what I actually wanted from life or how I wanted my life to be. Still, when I look back, I feel that I would not want it any other way, except for some childhood memories. My Son and hubby were the best part of my life. I found love and peace with them.
Responsibilities made me grow up very fast, there was no time to think, it was back to back something or the other happening and I had to act and make decisions in those moments even if I was not capable.
When I see some people around me, in their 40s also they act so carelessly towards life, they have no sense of responsibility towards their family and it makes me wonder when will these people grow up and get matured enough to understand their responsibilities towards their family, and not only family sometimes even towards their own-self.
Maturity does not only come with difficulties of life, it is about the exposure that one gets, and yes tough times do give more exposure to life on facing them.
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